Do your teens have those friends whose parents let them do anything....???

Question

You know the kids I mean....the ones who are pierced...who drink... smoke...and have no rules at all? Would you allow your teen to hang out with kids like this? Or go to their house? I'm pretty strict...It makes my job even harder when my kids see other teens and parents like that...to compare me to! Any other strict parents have this problem??

Answer 1

My opinion is that behind every teen like the one you described is a bad parent! Those parents should be smacked...they make good parents have to work that much harder!!

Answer 2

"But Susie's mom lets her!"

There's nothing worse than seeing bad parents and having your kids be jealous because you make them live by rules.

However, as much as this may bother your teens now - and as teens, they'll always find SOMETHING to bother them - someday they will thank you for it, and vow to do the same for their kids.

Basically just tell them "Sorry, kid, this is a home, not a free for all. I'm sorry your friends have no discipline, and bad parents, but I'm not like that. Get used to it." and let them whine about how unfair you are.

However if you know who those parents are? Call DCFS on them! Nobody should let their children run totally wild, and if they're drinking and smoking and possibly having underage sex then they probably should be removed from their parents' "care".

Encourage your children to make friends with people who have morals, and don't bend. If you don't want them hanging out with juvenile delinquents, don't let them.

However, if you yourself say you are strict, then your kids almost definitely think you are. You might want to change -some- of your rules... you know, change bedtimes for good behavior, that sort of thing.

I was raised in an incredibly strict household and I'm all the better for it, and what's more, I'm going to raise my children with the same rules, because a kid who doesn't know the meaning of "no" is going to have a very rude awakening once they get into the real world. Your duty as a parent isn't to keep them happy (especially as teenagers, which are never content) but to prepare them for reality.

Answer 3

I had rules for my kids I mean It was my house and I was their sole means of support. My daughter has an industrial bar that she got when she was 20. I think they can wait to run wild when they have their own job and own place to live. Stick to your rules the kids will be better adults for it.

Answer 4

Yes I do,have the same problem. I let the other kids come to my house, me and my daughter explain our rules and they have to follow them while they are in our home.I also tell my girls the rules you have at home are to be followed where ever you go.And if they are caught not being good,then they will be punished.WE teach our children to be leaders and not followers,and as long as their taught the right thing,most likely other kids will follow no matter how they are taught at home.We had 1 girl,she smoked cigarettes,I told her your mom may allow it,but we don't allow it here.Under age smoking is illegal and if your mom wants to go to jail she can,but I'm not.The little girl quit smoking,her mom never told her it was illegal.

Answer 5

my mom is strict but she respects me and my friends enough to trust me. i know im obviously a lot younger than you, but you said pierced? i have my nose and belly button pierced so you feel my mom is a bad parent and im a bad kid? well, i totally disagree on that remark because i have never touched a cigarette or alchol but yet you say that remark as if having metal in my body makes me a bad person. if you consider straight a's a bad kid them im terrible along with my friends. shame on you for judging people/parents you have no idea about. i agree some people i know have horrible parents who let there kids do whatever but i still encourage them not to and tell them they are stupid. some of my friends drink and smoke but i never have, if you have raised you kids right like my mother did, well according to you shes a bad parent because she let me have piercings, than your child wont be stupid. most kids dont have parents who let them do whatever kids do it cause there parents say they cant. the stricter you are th more likley he/she will want to do it, because you said they can't. my mom always bothers me not to but i know i have a lot going for me because of my grades and stuff. but don't judge parents by thre kids. you have no idea most the time im sure.

Answer 6

my mom was actually pretty much like you and i had this crazy friend who's parents would let her drink and what not. i would lie to my mom to get over to her house and eventually i just told my mom you're gonna have to trust me to make the right decisions with my life and she was like fine and now i can hang out with whoever i want she just needs to know where i am. what i'm trying to say is you have to decide whether or not you trust your kid enough to let her hang out with people she cares about.

Answer 7

well i have piercings (i just took out my eyebrow rings, but i still have my belly, monroe & tongue) , i smoked, i drank (i havent done anything like that for almost a year...grew out of it..so childish lol)...but to be honest...mostly ALL parent inforce rules...its the teens who go behind their backs & break the rules...dont blame the parents until you really know that they ARENT inforcing any rules...teens are rebelious..come on everyone knows that...& just because they have PIERCINGS mean nothing...maybe their parents dont have the same view on things that you do..some parents think they are acceptable...or let them get them for a reward or a birthday present or something...its not like the parent upright tells them yeah go drink go smoke ruin you life i dont care...

Answer 8

those are the ones that will kill their self doing something stupid. just make sure your kids are not with them when they do it.