My aunt is EXTREMELY OVER BEARING!!!! She does not have any children of her own. She constantly riducules everything in mine and my sisters lives. I cut off almost all contact with her, and then cries to my mom and sisters that I don't like her. She is so uptight and nervous that if something doesn't revolve around her she begins to scream and swear at the people around her like she is a two year old. Don't get me wrong I do love her, but I can't take the constant bickering that she carries on with. With the holidays coming up she will be ten times worse. I know she cares, but I have a wonderful mother I can talk to if I need to. How do I politely tell her that I am adult, not a child and tell her she needs to speak to me with more respect? I do not want to feel this way and I know if I could say something maybe she would realize how she is hurting the people that love her most, and destroying our relationship with one another.
2006-11-18 09:19:01 · 5 answers · asked by Lindsey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You might just have to sit her down for a heart to heart and let her know exactly how you feel. My MIL was the same way, bickering about everything I did, especially when she became a grandmother to our son, but after so long we just had to put our foot down and tell her to back off and just be a grandmother, not the mom. She might be hurt at first, or even angry, but if you are persistent in what you say and feel, she will eventually have to grow to accept it and live with the new boundaries you establish with her. Good luck.
2006-11-18 09:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her babysit for you one day and go out. Actually she may need to babysit a few times. Since she doesn't have children of her own, maybe she need to borrow some or have some. I think once you do that then she will shut up. Also what works for me, is I am glad Auntie you needed to vent about your issues and your concerns, but I think you should get a shrink. Would you like me to refer you to one? Trust me she will leave you alone. Because you are basically telling her, you are not the one with the problem Auntie, it is actually you. I am glad you are starting to recognize it now, for I have known all alone.
2006-11-18 10:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had an aunt that was the same way. she had no kids of her own and thought that us kids needed a second mother. she also thought we were always 3 and never grew up. how i solved the problem was to go to her for advice or to have suggest a solution to a problem i had real or imaginary. once she thought that she was helping and that i would come to her for her suggestions, she toned down and realized that i wasn't a child anymore and gave me space. just show your aunt that you need her and i bet she will tone down too. by the way, you don't have to take your aunts advice, just let her think you did.
2006-11-18 09:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by george 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not having much contact will most certainly not resolve the issues. i think that you need to talk with her when it can be just the two of you. tell her that you love her and would like to be able to spend the time with her, but that you don't like the things that she says, that it hurts you and at times makes you angry. tell her that as long as this is the attitude she is going to have then you will no longer be able to spend the time with her. she might get mad, but you have to think about you.
2006-11-18 09:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her just what you said here after all you said it you are a adult and will not be treated otherwise
2006-11-18 09:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋