My boyfriend broke up with me Thursday evening. That is a pain that can only be experienced. I thought I was going to die. The very next day (yesterday) he sent me a message on MySpace apologizing and asking if we could try again.
He left me a shell of what I was. He left our relationship a shell of what it was. How do I put the pieces back together? I want to give him a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. I don't want to go back into this angry, bitter, or having any hatred towards him. How can I get past these feelings. The first feelings were confusion, rejection, just the total feeling of losing your love. After a while, anger and bitterness set in, and since the message yesterday, the anger was even worse.
How can I get past this so we can try to get back what we had? I'm willing to do what it takes. In fact, I was willing before he broke up with me, he just didn't give me that chance.
Please give me some advice.
2006-11-18 09:06:10 · 15 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-18 09:28:03 · update #1
your boyfriend seems like he is confused. what makes you so sure that he will not do the same to you again? he appears to be playing with your emotion and did not seem to care whether he hurt you or not. he needs to resolve his feeling for you with him self first. why did he break up with you in the first place? if you feel like you need to give this another chance then, go ahead, just let him know that he hurt you allot and that you did not like it. talk to him, find out what is bothering him if anything is and them you can truly decide on what is best for you.if you are hurting like you say you are, then you must really love him. it is up to you to decide. can you trust him to not hurt you again? if so then you can try again.
2006-11-18 09:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by mysticshabs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is a huge part in a relationship. What made him brake up with you in the first place. If he really wants to get back together with you, you should give hime that chance, but only if you still love him. Otherwise you are waisting each others time. Don't get bitter anger is good everyone needs to vent now and then. The best thing to do if you don't get back together is to move on as quick as possible. It is hard but there are plenty of good guys out there.
2006-11-18 09:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do just just that, start all the way over. Even if you have to pretend that you just met him. Get to know each other all over again because i am pretty sure that both of you are different people then when you first started going out. Try not to make any references to your past relationship. Forgive him is the only thing that you can do. I mean truly forgive him even if you have to tell him exactly how you felt when he broke up with you, Just do whatever you have to do to truly forgive him
2006-11-18 09:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know what the reason he broke up with you was. That's a sign there are problems...unless you work through the problems or find out why he broke up and then why, now, he wants to get back together, the outcome will probably be the same and you'll get hurt again.
2006-11-18 09:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by luvguns2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i have broke up i dont know how many times in 3 years. the last year we have been getting along great. i think it depends on the reasons that you broke up for in the first place. were they serious issues or was it something that you can work out and improve on to fix your relationship. just keep in mind if you have the same problems over and over again and the only time things get better is if you break up and get back together - things will never change and maybe its time to move on
2006-11-18 09:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back , swallow your pride and move on. If you are still mad about the break up and are questioning this relationship, make him chase you for a while while you put your thoughts in prospective. Do not meet him, do not tell him u love him, do not go anywhere alone with him until you have this sorted out in your head.
2006-11-18 09:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only advice i can give you is that if you feel you are ready to forgive him and want to give him a second chance, love him like he has never hurt you before... but tell him exactly what you expect from your relationship with him.
also, what kind of guy tells you he wants to get back together on myspace??
i think he should have at least come over to see you, like a real man would.
2006-11-18 09:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Raelene N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In order to start over you have to forgive and let goof the pain and what caused the pain. If you don't let it all go and never bring it up again the relationship is doomed as it will always be there eating away at you. Ask your questions first then decide what you want to do...can you trust him, can you forgive him can you let it go???
~Good Luck~
2006-11-18 09:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....It sounds to me like he was testing the waters. Like seeing if he could break up with you and get you back anytime he wants. Have you tried explaining to him how he made you feel? I have been through this. I know how much it hurts. Maybe you could try finding an outlet for your emotions (ex. poetry, painting, going to a gun range). Mine is poetry. It releases all of my emotions onto paper and in such a beautiful way. The key is finding what suits you.
2006-11-18 09:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin's Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur heart tells u u should give him another shot.Then yes.I'm an excellent person 2 ask advice,but ur not tellin me Y ya'll broke up.Did he tell u y?If he did e-mail me at cbgirl1014lyfe at yahoo. I want 2 help u.
2006-11-18 09:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Colts Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋