me and my partner are going away for 4 nights, our 2 kids are going to stay with relatives! im now starting to feel like im neglecting them but at the same time we need a break, we havent been away together on our own for the 5 years we have been a couple! what do you think? are we selfish for wanting some time alone together?
2006-11-18 09:03:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no your not selfish at all, we all need a break from time to time though some people beg to differ by saying they are your kids so deal with it, but this is not the case, you may need a break or simply a bit of loving away from home. im doing the same next july for my 30th and am feeling a bit strange about it but i know i need abreak and if your sitters dont mind then neither should you, your kids will enjoy being spoilt by someone else. enjoy yourselves and please dont worry or feel gulty. xxx
2006-11-18 11:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by jill e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the kids are happy about staying with relatives while you are away you are not being selfish at all. In fact it will do you and your kids the power of good to take the break from each other and when you return you will see just how much you all appreciate each other. Have fun!
2006-11-18 09:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being selfish, you're life does not stop when you become a parent. It will do your relationship the world of good, and I'm sure the kids will have a great time probably be spoilt rotten.
You'll be a better parent for the break, everyone needs a break and me time now and then.
Go away, enjoy yourselves, re discover the little things that make you love him.
Have a brilliant time, have lots of fun, and have champagne for breakfast in bed. xx
2006-11-18 09:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can find someone reliable to look after your kids, then by all means go and enjoy that short break. You are not being selfish for wanting some time alone together. The most important thing is that the kids got someone reliable to look after them. If this is the case, then it is fine. Don't feel guilty.
2006-11-18 09:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go and have a great time. You need time alone as a couple and should not feel guilty. Be positive with the kids that they will have a fun time with your relatives and why not bring them back a small gift each?
2006-11-19 08:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! In my opinion, this vacation is a long time coming! 5 years!?! Good Lord, honey...you guys not only need this, you really deserve it! Don't feel bad just because you are going away. Your kids will be adults some day and believe me, they would never want you to feel as if you are selfish because you need some time alone. They would rather you be happy!
Have a good time!
2006-11-18 09:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't neglecting your kids. Repeat after me, "The only way I am going to be a good parent and spouse is to spend time with my partner without the children. If not, we have forgotten the union that created the kids in the first place." Treasure the time with your spouse. Don't worry about the kids. Your relationship will be better for it. And your children will grow up knowing that you both love each other very much!
2006-11-18 09:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way! Just phone them every evening, have a quick chat, say goodnight.
You can all have fun catching up when you're back together. And you'll be better parents for the break.
And its good for kids to learn some independance in a safe way like this.
Enjoy your break, and don't let yourself spoil it by constantly worrying.
2006-11-18 09:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by sarah c 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't being selfish. The best things for your kids is for you to have a healthy marriage. Lots of people take trips and leave their children with relatives. Yes they will probably cry, and Yes you will worry if they are OK. But everything will be fine. GO, and have a GREAT TIME!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-18 09:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are SO not being selfish!! The little ones will get spoiled rotten by the relatives!!
Go away, have fun and you will come back refreshed and ready to face the world.
Plus the fact it will probably do your relationship the power of good.
best wishes
2006-11-19 09:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋