My boyfriend and i have been going out for about 4 months now. But we have know each other for ever.Well anyways we both feel that we are meant for each other.I'm just not sure we are ready to have sex.I want to, but then again I'm not even sure we'll know what we're doing, because we are both virgins.And I dont want it to be really weird or weird afterwards.Does anybody have any good advice?...If you do please give it up.
2006-11-18 09:03:28 · 18 answers · asked by meaglynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're both virgins, there's not a lot you can do to avoid the weirdness after. That happens to everybody after their first time. The best thing you can do is communicate beforehand and during. It would be a shame if he was into it and didn't know he was hurting you and vice versa. You have to feel your partner out and learn what s/he does and doesn't like before it will really start to be good. The first time is always weird...
2006-11-18 09:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by robtheman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Sex is more than just something one "should" do because you have been together for awhile. Don't let yourself fall into this "we were made for each other" baloney. If you were 25-30 then maybe I could buy it, but not now. One goes thru several major personality changes between 13 and 27........You just aren't the same person.
Sex is not a toy. It comes with very serious consequences......like life and death.......a baby or you contract a deadly disease......and all sorts of stuff in between. Relationships get very complicated when sex is added. If you are not emotionally or physcially able to handle babies, veneral diseases or worse, or the emotional complications sex adds (and it sounds like you are not), then keep your pants on.
2006-11-18 17:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are having doubts the answer is no. The answer also makes a difference depending on your age. Talk to your mother, tell her how you are feeling, give her a chance and reassure her that you have not done anything yet. I am positive she will be helpful.....unless of course she is a tyrant. Also, think about the risks and what you want to do with your future. Do you want to risk having a child before you really want to? There are a lot of things to consider.....think about those things.
2006-11-18 17:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by mistyblue352001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be too confused about this decision. Sex changes every relationship and if you are too young or just not ready in that relationship it can make things very akward. Speaking from lots of experience, you should enjoy this phase of your relationship as much as possible now. You will wish later that you had more communication and affection and passionate embraces that were enjoyable in and of themselves and not a means to sex.
2006-11-18 17:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by ape2016 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make love just because people do it. Since both of you are still virgins then remain so until the wedding bells ring. You will then have a purpose for sex. Thereafter you will trust each other since the only sexual partner will be yourselves. Beware of diseases because once you start you will not stops and who knows?
2006-11-18 17:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your age, too.
But if you really feel the time is right, go for it. I mean, if you are both virgins, he cant critize u or anything. It'll be like none of u now if ur doing it right, so I don't see the problem. If you really dont want to do it with him, dont! Tell him if he loves you, he can wait, but let him kno eventually u will loose ur virginity to him.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 17:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by boy_skowting 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all how old are u? and second u should wait til u can support urself in case u get pregnant u can take care of the kid cuz mom and dad especially dad aint gonna be too happy with that......just wait theres no rush into this u have all ur life to do this worry about ur future first like skool
2006-11-18 17:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by bigboss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont Rush Into Anything You Cant Handle.
2006-11-18 17:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok! Dont do it! u r both young you will regrt it afterwards! n u cant change back the hands of time!!
Dont do it! wait !
2006-11-18 17:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Janey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered this-"I'm not sure we are ready" to have sex.It's up to you and when you are truly ready you won't have to ask.
2006-11-18 17:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋