i have to visit my cousin tommorow and i don't know what to say about... i know i should just talk normal to her but it just makes me feel so uncomfertable and i just burst out crying about her cancer
2006-11-18 09:00:56 · 18 answers · asked by Lor-the-Giraffe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just say that you love her alot and just remember all the good times dont be so negative and talk normal to her like she didnt have cancer
2006-11-18 09:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting emotional is normal when you're losing a loved one. I'd say that the best thing to do when someone is on their death bed is to bring up good memories that the both of you have shared in the past. Good things that she's ever said to you or done for you to make you feel better when you were down or upset, tell her how much they matter and how much you appreciate her being there for you. Most importantly, tell her that you love her and that she'd always be in your heart. Conversate with her and share secrets. Make the moments in life that are left for you and her to share, a memory that will be in your heart forever. God Bless you and your family, and take care.
2006-11-18 09:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you can not say what you want to in words, spend the time talking about the great times that you can remember try and bring some peace to her. Write a letter tonight expessing all your thoughts and feelings how much you love her and hope that she will be waiting for you someday. Not goodbye but so long for now.That way you make sure you cover everything you want her to know.
2006-11-18 09:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, your cousins expects this from those that come to visit. she will be very happy that you came to see her. as hard as it may seem make sure you make eye contact with her while you are talking to her. this will mean alot to her and when she is gone you will be glad that you did. as far as to what to say, there is no harm in letting her know how much you will miss her and how much you love her. some people with cancer have excepted the fact that they are going to die.and it will mean a great deal to her if she knows that you too have excepted it. you can also talk about what has been going on in your life,talk about things that you and her may have done, and yes you can even laugh.
2006-11-18 09:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing you can say to anyone is that you love them. You may not have all the right words, but the heart that can share love is the best comfort of all. Practically, you basically listen to them and let them know that you are there and that you care about what they are going through and that you do not have all the answers. I hope this helps.
2006-11-18 09:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely see her, you don't know what life is going to bring next. None of us do. You are being given a gift how many times have you heard someone say "I wish for the the chance to say to how much someone meant to them"? "Meant" being past tense, you have the opportunity to tell her what she "Means" to you. How she has affected your life. Things you were able to share silly things, serious moments, secrets, a bond you can forever carry in your heart , if you keep these moments alive she will always be with you, death can't steal these moments. If you cry its okay remember to laugh also.The message here is live in the moment, live for the moment. Make your life count...... and take her along , she is always going to be with you. With much compassion, take care!
2006-11-18 09:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by dory329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider asking her . . . if you visiting her is 'difficult' for her? Then confess how difficult it is for you . . .
I'm curious? What does 'talk normal' sound like?
I don't seem to have 'hangups' about these life realities . . .
I have asked many 'terminal' people how they are feeling about their imminent death -
some don't wish to discuss their feelings, yet others have felt great relief that they are able to 'finally' open up to someone about their feelings . . .
It's your call - you won't get to ask after she's gone
2006-11-18 09:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here lies the biggest difference between a person who have faith and believe in God , and one who doesn't. I am not implying you are not a believer, just thinking of the so much having been said about god in here. 90% of believers in your current position will say," Let's pray to leave everything in the hands of God." So sorry to hear about your cousin.
2006-11-18 09:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be as natural as possible, Your cousin already understands your sympathy. Talk about whatever you talked about before her illness.....
If all else fails.. There is TimKat & Katie Holmes,, They are the talk of the nation.
2006-11-18 09:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Love&Confusion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking normal means not getting hysterical and crying and making the person even more unhappy than they are.
2006-11-18 09:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋