my aunt doesnt like my man................so she calls me stupid and she hated my father because she said he didnt treat my mother right..............so she told me that i was just like my old no good father.....this hurts me so bad.........im crying right now as i type this................she doesnt want me with my boyfriend but i do love him.............im 43 and my family still trys to run my life..................i was so much in love with my oldest childs father when i was in college ..........he wanted me to go to michigan but i scared of what they would do.............................. i hurt so bad.......i want everyone to be happy...........i quess you could call me a people pleaser
2006-11-18 08:44:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all you have to know that you cant please everyone. You should do what makes you happy and if the people in your life truly care about you the will stand by you in your decision. In my life time i have found that most people who are mean are that way because they either have low self esteem, or they are just not happy with where they are at in there life and they use putting other people down to pick them self's up
2006-11-18 08:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by jaysin2386 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally people say mean things to bring their loved ones down because they have been hurt themselves and dont know how to deal with it in an approriate manner so they take it out on the first and closest person to them. My advice: try talking to your family in a grown up civil manner and u might be surprised on the outcome. If this doesnt work, then forget them. you have a life to live and u deserve to be happy. Just because ur family isnt happy, Dont let them bring you down to their level.
2006-11-18 09:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by drsmokeitup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. to make them selves feel bigger when they are be-littling
degrading) someone else
2 to hide their insecurities
3 cause theyre *** holes
have a talk with the person that is doing this to you especially if theyre in youre family and youre 43!! wow u should even care what any one says ure an adult! does he abuse u? des he have a J O B ? loves you? have other kids that hate u? major problems (an alcholic? ) ... what do u want ? what do u think is right!
4 because they're jelous
5 theyre wishing they were in your shoes
2006-11-18 08:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Josianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes our family members don't have a life so they meddle in everyone elses life. Actually all of those things she said to you should not hurt because your Aunt was coming out of her face and talking about her own issues. So next time, say you Know Auntie, I am sorry that you feel that way, and I am sorry that you needed to vent to me about your own personal issues, but I am not you and I am not your shrink, but I can refer you to a really good one. Trust me she will shut the fudge up.
2006-11-18 08:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now do you see what being a people pleaser gets you? why should her opinion matter......is she the man in your life? she doesnt have to deal with him! you do .....no matter how good a person you are or try to be.....someone is gonna have a problem with you! sometimes you gotta say......F-CK IT! AND EVERYONE ELSE WHO DOESNT LIKE ME CAN KISS MY A-S!!!!!!ive said this a few times and found it to work like a charm......im happier too! try it.......it works and youll feel much better.
2006-11-18 08:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 06:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by jaffar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should'nt let ur aunt or any1 else run ur life.Ur 2 old 4 that.U need 2 follow ur heart and i kno ur heart iz tellin u that u really luv this guy.So b with him and 4get wat every1 else say.
2006-11-18 08:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Colts Chick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they R insecure of them selves and dont want to c people doing better than they R
2006-11-18 08:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by patrick c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people say mean things --because we allow them to say it and they feel they have the upper hand. this is your life - and whether you make right or wrong decisions - that's YOUR business not THEIRS. follow your heart - it usually tells us the right things to do.
2006-11-18 09:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋