My boyfriend and I are law students. This summer, we'll be getting internships wherever we can. I live in VA. He lives in MI. He says he would prefer to stay in VA this summer, but now he's also applying for jobs in MI. His ex (who he dated for 3 years) lives there. I know it's hard to find a job, and he might have to go back there, but I would be really pissed if he did go home. It would be a whole summer for him to inevitably spend with her. Is it wrong for me to be this selfish?
2006-11-18 08:31:52 · 7 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The college experience, especially the grad school experience, always brings up this uncomfortable fact… the two of you may have to be apart for a while. I went through the same thing as you when my girlfriend took a clerkship in Charlotte, while i stayed in DC interning @ the Cannon building. It can work for the both of you, but if you're already worried about the ex-girlfriend, i'm not really sure.
This is how i see it. The two of you completed college and are now on your way to completing a jurisdoctorate together. Such a level of education should allow your feelings to give way a little to rational thought and reason. The two of you have been together for a while now… reason dictates he wouldn't go back to the trailer girlfriend when he has someone has talented, beautiful and intelligent as you. Give yourself some credit, plan up for frequent flier miles, and you should be fine.
I really wouldn't worry about the ex, but do expect the two of you to rack up some serious air time seeing each other.
Wish you luck!
2006-11-18 08:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's natural to feel threatened or worried especially if you think he'll be spending time with his ex. I guess before he leaves (or if he does) talk it over with him and tell him how you feel about it. You should also hopefully be able to trust him - it can be tough but it'll put your mind at ease while he is away. Hope this helps!
2006-11-18 16:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by ~*KaRmA*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is more on his mind than just spending the summer with you...fianances...getting a good internship...where to settle after college....you should talk to him about these issues if you are serious....
2006-11-18 16:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by chris f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You are entitled to ypur opinion. You can't force him to stay, but you should tell him that you want him to stay. If he still goes then you should visit him. Don't jump to conclusions if he sees his ex, they could just be friends.
2006-11-18 16:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by blizzardbaby534 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you don't want to lose him and if you really don't want to lose him that bad why dont you apply in MI so then youll still be with him and you wont' have aything to worry about
2006-11-18 16:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by *LaTiNa_BoNiTa* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should trust him. And if he gets back with her, then it wasn't mean to be. You can easily find someone else.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 16:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. r u a watchdog. I believe u love ur bf. so, u should trust him.
2006-11-18 16:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mikeeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋