My mom is currently thinking negative all the time. is there any ways I can change this mindset of hers?

Question

My dad, sister and I always think positive, I want to help her out

She seems to feel defeated, and she also gets depressed when someone says trash about her. I learned to ignore people like that but how can I get her to feel strong and ignore negativity?

Answer 1

It's nice that you want to help her out, but don't cause yourself to suffer by being over-responsible for other people. I make that mistake myself. The thing I'm learning is that you can't change people if they're not interested in changing. We all have our own path to walk.

However, when she says something negative, you might want to turn it around and say something positive. By not agreeing with her negative thoughts, you'll be planting a seed of self-doubt in her mind. Ultimately, though, the best way to change others is to be the best we can be.

In short, just continue being a positive model for her. Good luck.

Answer 2

I was a very negative person after 2 berevements 8 yrs ago. Then I bought some self help books with cds by Paul mckenna from the uk. it took a while to kick in, but one day I awoke to find myself actually looking forward to what the day had to offer, I am a very positive person now, have lost some much needed weight, go to the gym twice a week and feel GREAT,i relax every night and morning which is a great help, also I have motivation to do things which was never my strong point.give your mom all the support she needs , my daughter got fed up with me and has not spoken for a year due to my being negative, she hasn't seen the "New me" wish your mom all the luck from me, she's worth it.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

She probably needs antidepressants, the hard part will be getting her to the Doctor for help. Sounds like you have a great, caring family, for every one to notice mom is having a hard time. Is there any way you all could get together, and gently suggest she seek medical help?, there is no shame in needing antidepressants. Also, if your mother is between 40 to 54, it could be the onset of menopause, that is making her so negative,meds can help with that too. I think your a very nice person to want to help your mother. Good luck,the hardest part will be to get her to realize that she needs to do some thing.

Answer 5

Sounds like your mom is going through depression. When someone is depressed it makes it hard for them to be happy about things. Depression is a medical condition so do not think that you are the cause. The most I can suggest is to get your mom out on walks and out doing things that she may enjoy. Remind her she is a great mom and do not let her get away from the things she enjoys doing. If she is still down about things it may be time to get her to a doctors who may recommend medication and/or her talking to a counselor.
Hang in there and insist she do the things she likes doing. Good luck!
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Answer 6

I guess that's the generation of yesterday talking. I don't know if you should do anything, if you talk about it she will get all freaky on you because she thinks it's dirty to talk about, (which isn't right, but that's how people act when they thinks it's taboo). After additional info: That feels like my house, we've never talked about it, so I had to learn everything myself, and eventually I learned the same as you have, there's nothing wrong with it. Maybe it's because when parents see you act or talk about it they see you growing up and will feel you getting one step closer to moving away soon. I consider myself lucky I choose to be responsible because I heard that kids who never get talked to about it are more likely to have kids in middle school and act irresponsibly.

Answer 7

Being positive around her can only help. The reality is that we can't change another person's mindset. In a way it really isn't our business.

She may be depressed and her doctor may be able to help. Maybe she feels stuck in her life and that she isn't doing what she loves. It could be a million different things.

Instead of trying to change her, work on loving her just the way she is. That may just give her permission to feel what she feels and perhaps she will be able to work through it.

Best of luck!

Answer 8

The most you can do is be there for her..
Just doing more than your share of the housework and letting her relax might let her know you appretiate her and want her to feel better. :)

I hope it helps. Maybe she might like a little gift, like some floweres or something. Get some family members to chip in and take her out to a nice dinner to keep her mind off of all the other people are saying.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

if it was my mom i would let her know that it bothers me and maybe she is doing it so that way u have 2 options too look at and it will not be as bad if u look at the positive and the negative