Mav perplexed by some Christians?

Question

Mav perplexed. Mav have some Christian friends who feel the need to tell everyone about good things they do. Mav feels they do good things for Godly reasons, but feel the need to make sure people know they did it.

Do you suppose they are suffering for insecurity?

Mav trying to figure it out so she can help friend.

Answer 1

Mav needs to first take speech lessons. Maybe they feel the have to live up to being a good Christian and boasting about their good deeds makes them feel better. They are insecure.

Answer 2

Perhaps, but what is the spirit of their sharing . . . is it "I, I, I, I" or is it "this was a neat experience and this is the blessing I received from helping"?

Well, Mav, next time your Christian friends start talking of their good deeds--stop them. Say, help me out . . . are you sharing because you want me to know what you have done or are you sharing because you feel so blessed and you feel you gained something through helping this person? If the answer is the first, then ask, why do you want me to know this? If it is due to how they ended up just as blessed as the person they helped . . . cut to the chase . . . I understand you did this, but tell me how you were blessed since that is really what you are trying to share. Bring the conversation to a point by saying, isn't amazing how when you try to give to others you are often the one who is blessed through the opportunity to serve . . . I bet you get, I knew you would understand back.

Answer 3

Like all people Christians can be insecure like everyone else.

People think that Christians proclaim to be perfect. In reality being a Christian is the admission of imperfection and through a relationship with God we become closer to God learn from his teachings.

Remember the church is sinners, not saints. There will always be people that have bad intentions and use their religious beliefs for personal gain.

These people are not true Christians or Muslims, or etc.

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Answer 4

Jesus said that our good deeds should be done in secret, so that only God knows. He said that we shouldn't be like the religious people of his day who did good deeds so that other men would be impressed. When we do that, we are told, we have received all the reward there is. There will be no heavenly reward for such acts done for men.

I am always a little amused at people who, in interviews with the press, tell all about the great things they do for other people. They get recognition for their efforts, but they forfeit something that God says is much more valuable.

Answer 5

There's a world of difference between doing good deeds out of the goodness of your heart and doing good deeds but needing validation and recognition for them. The latter does not seem to mesh with what Jesus taught. I think insecurity is a reason why they may do that. Pride fits in as well.

Answer 6

I seem to remember Jesus cautioning his followers not to make a big show of their faith, so I suspect Mav is on the right track.

If a person believes that god knows and sees all, it makes sense that one need not announce one's charitable acts.

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Answer 7

Insecurity or need for attention. However, a tree should be judged by its fruit. If the tree has to yell and say "Hey look how good my fruit is!!!", is it really that great?

Answer 8

sometimes they are just happy and let you know, it isn't boasting(sometimes for some people yeah but not all). but doing the things they do is a part of their day, so if they share it with you as a friend what is the harm in that.

Answer 9

It could be. There could be other reasons too but, mostly a need for recognition which is sad in itself. It makes you ask yourself who it is that they know that does not cherish them when they should. Is it there husband?, a child, friends? Interesting question, thank you for asking.

Answer 10

why mav talk about friends like this.