I have no idea what to do..my family knows all except my grandmother...anyone have any advice that will help calm me..because im scared!!
2006-11-18 08:02:54 · 11 answers · asked by tlaurina 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't have an abortion.
It will cause you much more pain than even the tremendous task of carrying the baby to term and caring for it.
If you don't have the means to care for the child, just give it up for adoption, maybe even to someone in your own family that wants to have a kid, or better yet, if you have a very supportive family especially grandparents, allow them to care for the baby.
Pray to God that he will give you the courage and the wisdom to treat your baby as a valuable human being and not a problem to be solved by killing it.
2006-11-18 08:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by STILL standing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. you'll be fine.
the first thing you need to do is make sure you have a job if you don't already - you gotta have $$$ and the more $$$ the easier it is
Check out what's available locally for support - WIC/welfare/etc. If you're not w/the father, make a trip down to your local child support office, also planned parenthood, etc.
Make sure you take care of yourself - go to the doctor, get enough sleep, eat right, etc.
Borrow or buy a copy of the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting"
Decide what you want to do now before the baby is born - take a cram class if you can (something that will let you walk out w/certification/degree in 6-9 months - maybe look into nursing/becoming an appraiser, etc.)
If you can't get insurance through work, but can stay on your parents as a student, it might be cheaper to pay for 2 semesters of community college than insurance.
Most of all though, don't worry. :) Having kids is fun, and if you're willing to work for what you want out of life, you'll always have what you want.
2006-11-18 08:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just know that it is not the end of the world. I have always found it funny that people always freak out when people get pregnant young. It happens and there is nothing wrong with that. It will only ruin your life if you let it. It just means that you will have to be more responsible now, stop the partying and you will have to grow up a bit sooner than your friends. You can still have a good life and you can still go to college if that is what you want. There are lots of programs for mothers in college. Don't despair it will be alright.
2006-11-18 08:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Heather P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can contact your local Planned Parenthood office and get an appointment to see a counselor, they will explain to you what to expect both physically and emotionally during your pregnancy and answer questions. You need to get an obstetrician and devise a care plan for your pregnancy. You need to get the father involved because he is equally responsible to plan for caring and raising your child. Finally, let your family know that now is when you need them most and lean on them for support. That should help relieve some of the anxiety. Know this, you are not the first woman to have an unexpected pregnancy. So take a deep breath and relax, it will be okay!
2006-11-18 08:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get some counselling. If you aren't having an abortion, then you have to deal with becoming a mother or give the baby up for adoption. Talk to family members about your options. Calm down and think. You have time.
You'll be OK>
2006-11-18 08:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 02:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by wheelwright 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 when I got pregnant with my daughter, it is very scary but with the love and help you should get from your family you will be OK. It is a long hard road but well worth it. I have been a single mom since I was pregnant and I wouldn't change a thing, My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me!
2006-11-18 08:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Becky R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy - you will have a new person to love. If you feel
the child would be better off with someone financially stable,
they have "open" adoptions now in which the birth mother
can be a part of the child's life through occasional visits and
calls, letters, etc.
2006-11-18 08:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by judy f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the hard part is over, telling your parents. once you calm down and are able to think about your situation better you can decide what you want to do about your pregnancy. carry the baby to term and keep it, or adopt the baby out, or terminate the pregnancy. and don't listen to anybody about abortion being wrong. its your body and your life.
2006-11-18 08:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by Erika M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the father of the child.
2006-11-18 08:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋