ok...there is this guy from church...i like him ALOT...i think he likes me...but idk...he flirts w/ me...and i flirt w/ him back...weve been friends for like 6 yrs...and every sunday in church i sense someone staring at me...then i look up...the guy that i like is staring at me...then he looks away real fast...it happens all through church...i want 2 go out w/ him...im thinking of having my best friend do it...but idk...i would do it myself...but im too much of a wimp...should i have my friend do it...o ya...im a freshman (14) and hes an 8th grader (14 also)...we are from different schools though...im in a musical tonight...should i ask him to come...or is it too late of notice...he lives like 15-20 min. away...what do i do??...what should i do about this whole deal w/ me and him??...and do u think he likes me??...please help...thanks
2006-11-18 07:37:23 · 6 answers · asked by cool chic 2no 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well here's what I think.... He should have already asked you out or asked you for your phone number BY NOW!!! BUT saying that he's a church boy. Maybe he's a bit shy and his emotions/hormones could be RAGING and he doesn't know what to do. I think that you should just BREAK the rules and ASK him out to meet at STARBUCKS or come to your Play/musical.
You need to try to TALK to him just strike up a conversation and see where it takes you.
My past experiences with guys like this is sometimes they are just SHY regardless of what the RULES books say some young men are shy and they don't want to get shot down but you know its ok for them to Shoot us down sometimes we're women and supposedly we can handle it but THEY can't.. But you know I don't wanna get all into that right now.
The thing is you could just strike up a conversation with him. Maybe give him your number. if he calls you invite him to the show. But the bottom line is YOU really want to make the men ask YOU out and ASK you for YOUR phone number. If you start carrying them now you'll be doing it forever. Nobody wants a henpecked man. YOu want a man who goes for what he wants and not just STARING at you like a cow looking at a new gate. Good lord what type of looser does that?
BUT if you must give into your emotions because the heart wants what the heart wants/needs. Just break the rules and TALK to him stop with this shy stuff. Break the ice and go for it.
But remember sometimes men like to be in control. That sucks but its the way it is. No matter what you have to let them be the AGGRESSORS they sometimes respect you more later. IF he wants a date with you let that turkey ask for it. If he wants your phone number make him work hard for your attention.
BUT then again. Based on his teachings he may be to weak and to shallow to do it. So you may have to help him by being more aggressive but once he gets his confidence up ..... well don't give him too much confidence that can be bad too.
but there's two options Take it or leave it.
Holla
2006-11-18 07:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by The PurpleScorpionGoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uMM... i guess he likes u ! u really should ask him to come to the musical. soon go to him and tell him can i talk to u for a sec. and tell hem what u feel u know since he's staring and u know by the way its hard to ask a girl older than u out just like be couraged and hey it might work out just try it believe in urself and believe in dreams talk to him privatly and explain everything and tell him its fine if u dont feel the same way but i just wanted u to know hey, girl relax the signs show that he likes u !
GOOD LUCK HOPE U GET WHAT U WANT
2006-11-18 07:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. Ask him out. Bring it up casually, ur musical, and be like it would be awesome if i would have peopl ewatch me, and if he doesnt offer to come askk him. dont be dissapointed if he says no or is busy, because either way he'll know that ur getting his signals. and if he stops staring at you or whatnot, just try to back off and get over him, even though it may be hard. good luck on ur musical!
2006-11-18 07:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bananas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he likes you but he's shy. Just invite him and see if he comes and just be his friend. w/ time you'll find out whether you're meant for each other.
2006-11-18 07:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked this question last week. What happened??
lol! That's weird.
2006-11-18 07:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someones obsessed!-lol- j/k .......I say go 4 it you'll never know what will happen unless you try things!
2006-11-18 07:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by ~brunette♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋