how can i over come being shy and show men that i OK to talk to me?

Question

i just turned 18 and i have such a baby face+im shy as can be! is that a turn off ? i see all kinds of women with boyfirends, whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

First of all there is nothing wrong with you. That is who you are, however if it really bothers you then ask yourself these questions: Are you shy at first but worm up quickly or just shy all the way around? If you are shy at first but warm up quickly then don't fret. Men will begin to notice you when the over baring woman personalities get annoying. If you are shy all the way around then you need to step out of your comfort zone and initiate the first conversations. If at some point during your interaction you think about saying or doing something but you know you will just “DIE” if you do/say it. Then stop thinking about dieing (because it’s not going to happen) and just say/do it anyways. Quit thinking about it, your own thoughts are what keep you feeling safe, stressed, shy etc. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I am a guy. -- Being shy is NOT, I repeat NOT, a turn off. ON THE CONTRARY, it is kinda nice !! It is a turn on for me anyway and for many guys. A girl who talks a lot, who is 'loud' puts guys off... at least me anyway !! Let's just for a moment try to define "shy". What is being shy ? It is a fear, right ?! A fear of being seen inadequate... fear of not being liked... fear or horror of being turned down or rejected, a fear that no one will like you. It is lack of confidence. Go out have fun... You have nothing to prove therefore nothing that you could fail on. When you go out you are not under scrutiny. We guys have a far worse job than you chicks. A rejection by a girl is like a kick in the teeth. It feels terrible. Don't be shy... guaranteed you will have guys coming to you. Espexially if you have cute 'baby face'.

Answer 3

Sugar, it is probably your lack of confidence. Always remember, that "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", AND "beauty is skin deep BUT ugly is to the bone". This means that the most beautiful person, in the world, can become UGLY if her personality is rotten.......while the less beautiful person can become beautiful when her personality shines through. What am I saying? Let your personality shine through!!!

Good luck. Pops

Stand up straight, smile at people and speak to people.

DO NOT leave ALL up to the men. They are no different from you, some are very shy and some aren't, just like women.

Answer 4

Listen girl, don't change. It's hard, we've all been there. Just be yourself and the one who's made for you will come along. You're still young (I know you don't think you are) but just have fun now! Before you know it you'll be married to a great guy and maybe a few kids and have no time to go shopping alone or go out with just the girls! Have some fun and try not to worry so much!

Answer 5

relies upon on the lady. i'm going to instruct my emotions for the lady early on interior the dating if i'm mushy adequate with the lady to achieve this. even so i've got been with some females i turn into under no circumstances mushy adequate to instruct my emotions for, and not in any respect did. those relationships for sure did no longer final. some adult men are nonetheless getting over what got here approximately to them interior the previous and could no longer open as much as anybody. yeah i've got been harm; yet area of what makes love what this is, having the ability to be susceptible and take that danger. you under no circumstances get everywhere in case you do no longer placed forth that attempt. you're chatting with the incorrect adult men this is all ...

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with you!!! i am 28 and most of the time I am able to be pretty confident around men but still occasionally get tounge tied when I like someone. Just take it slow, that stuff will come... try and remember that they are just people too and that means that they can be nervous too. Find things that you like to talk about like commen interests... music, movies... start from there... and if you are to nervous to sit there and dominate the conversation then ask them questions about themselves... like about their job, family etc... I haven't met a guy yet that doesn't like talking about himself to a girl!

Answer 7

it could be that you are afraid something might go wrong. I'm kind of shy myself and often times, it's because i feel like something will go wrong if i try anything. But if you don't try anything, how will you know if you could have had that boy that you've always wanted? Maybe you could start with a simple icebreaker like saying "hi", or "how are you". Using icebreakers really helps to start a good conversation.

Answer 8

Just be who you are and remember never accept somebody because he did the first step. Open your mouth to someone who you like from first sight. Don't worry everything is coming by natural way /I was 19 and have the problem/ someday you are going to see the shyness disappear and you can speak up..

Answer 9

Stop thinking of guys as potential boyfriends/lovers and just as possible friends. Try to be friendly, just saying "Hi" or smiling. If you're pretty, you should get a lot of guys talking to you.

Do you have girlfriends? Hang out with them and go to where guys hang out. Go to the mall, sporting events, clubs, etc.

Answer 10

Nothing. You have plenty of time. Some guys like the shy ones, but you are right, you have to send out some signals. Just engage them in small talk. "How are you?" for starters.