I brokeup with my boyfriend of six months last Sunday. It was a mutual, and amicable breakup but was done very hastily and impulsively on my part because I was hurting so much. I knew eventually we would breakup because we had too many issues and ultimately realized we weren't meant for each other (We had planned to get engaged over the holidays). I never wanted to cut things off between us completely, though. I keep having thoughts of calling him just to get some closure, but I've been advised by friends and family not to do that. I've been hurting so much all week and I keep seeing and thinking about things that remind me of him. Any advice on how to heal my heart?
2006-11-18 06:52:49 · 8 answers · asked by Mysti1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do. don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.
2006-11-18 07:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Break Ups are easy! Believe me, you made the right choice ending it espeically when you have too many issues. Its always better to end it sooner, rather than years and years later after there are kids involved and etc. Thats when things get real messy and practically infect both entire family's with trauma.
My advice is this: Get to a salon, get a couple new outfits, hit the gym, UPDATE YOUR LOOK! Closure: pack away all the things that remind you of him, into a really cool storage box and tuck away in the closet. Flip your mattres or buy new...change the karma :) Change your bedroom, make some changes in your life. It will feel better knowing that you are moving on.
START DATING! get out there, practice your flirting skills. Remember its a whole new world and you got some fabulous YOU to share:) Shake that booty girl!
A wise friend once told me that God only takes away something when its time to replacew it with something better!
2006-11-18 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by metismaiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things that occupy your mind
I don't know how old you are - but the best defense against going down the wrong path is to find something to take your mind off him.
You won't be able to be freinds right now - but perhaps down the road. If you find yourself wishing for him to be with you - ask yourself "why?"
If the answer is "i'm bored" or "lonely" then call a girlfreind - if she's a good freind - she'll tune you up quick enough - and don't defend him to anyone unless you know he is being unfairly judged. It's all about "karma" (i used the term loosely to make my point) What goes around comes around - it really does.
I should have realized this years ago - instead I wound up marrying "by default"
2006-11-18 07:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat i might say is, attempt and get your self a getaway automobile.. go away the places tat u n ur bf were in the previous, go away the thoughts at the back of for a while.. until u can recover from wit ur feeling and ur broken heart.. a breakup isn't elementary for a individual to maintain regularly occurring, convey a number of your girlsfriends or comparable intercourse people alongside.. people who r close acquaintances.. decide for a trip, for some days, relax and do something new, that u hadn't executed on your existence in the previous.. take ur suggestions off issues a jointly as, attempt to no longer cope urself wit the painful stuff, launch it.. fill the empty area in ur heart wit new experiance tat u can seek for wit ur acquaintances, acquaintances additionally could nicely be dealt with as a healing ability.. love could nicely be a complicated component, as people continuously say, it take a million day to love, even with the indisputable fact that it takes extra suitable than a million 12 months to miss.. so, dun be too disillusioned, u can handle this as area of existence.. n existence's by no ability tat suited.. continuously confirm you seem on the vivid area in the previous remembering the dark area... so attempt and make ur existence plenty extra pleased.. and walk suited out of the gloom.. and not enable it hang-out u continuously.. existence will purely save occurring.. that's often time for destiny, yet by no ability time for the previous...
2016-10-22 07:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start concentrating on you and set some goals to reach for. Just keep yourself busy and be grateful of the good times you had and the lessons that you learned by the bad times!
2006-11-18 06:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by suzi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through a long one where mine started not to act the way he use to. And it really broke my heart. But I feel that me helping people with the same problem as I. Can help me and them too.
2006-11-18 06:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Shizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fill ur mind with other things...go out with ur friends...have fun....only time can heal the pain
2006-11-18 06:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through one sad :(
2006-11-18 06:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋