Why go back to a miserable relationship?

Question

My mate wants to get back with his ex. They were together for over two years. He said they argued a lot (at least one arguement a week) and eventually they split. Why would someone want to get back into a relationship where there was alot of arguing? I can't see why? Surely the arguing shows you are not campatable.

Answer 1

Personally , I couldn't stick a relationship where there were lots of rows.

My husband and I sometimes disagree, but we very seldom row - maybe once a year, if that.

But we have 2 sets of friends who row all the time. I find it quite hard to be with them when they start getting on at each other in front of people.

But I've discussed it with them individually, and they all say they are happy in their relationships, and don't want anything to change. They seem to see rowing as a quick and easy way of resolving disputes.

Now, I'm not at all convinced. But maybe it is possible to be happy in a confrontational and volatile relationship.

I really don't know - but I hope your mate makes the right decision.

Answer 2

After years of being lied and and cheated on i finally divorced the person . As it is i am single but there is someone i have been talking with she is an adult and lives on the other side of the world from me / country . To tell you the truth i do love this person even though we have never met .We have exchanged details between each other and i am certain she feels the same toward me . Kayleigh it's 4 in the morning here in the states and i am still in the hospital from the car accident i was in a couple weeks ago . / back in the hospital . You ask if i am currently HAPPY in this relationship ? Yes very much so . Even though i cannot touch this person with my hands and look in their eye I am still in love .

Answer 3

Tell your mate he gave it his best shot the first time around and that he should stop before he makes a bad situation worse.

He's going to be carrying all of the emotional baggage, as well as the woman will, and it will always come up during the inevitable rows to follow.

Countless days/weeks/months wasted trying to sort out a mistake your ego was too strong to prevent.

Be single for a while, get your life in shape. Look out for pastures new.

Answer 4

We're creatures of habit. Sometimes the reality of being on your own can make you do silly things. Maybe your friend thought he'd be happier sleeping on his own at night and not having anyone in his life to share things with. Takes some getting used to and often people will go back to the "safe and sound" rather than move forward (which is a lot harder).

Answer 5

Not necessarily. Maybe time out made them see what they loved about each other and they may have grown up up enough to get on this time. It might be better the second time around, and if it doesn't work out this time then at least they know they gave it a go and then they can move on.

Answer 6

Why are they arguing.i
It appears to me that they are certainly unsuited if they are constantly bickering. Tell him to get to the root of the problem. Talk to her. Try and establish reasons. If all else fails, Find someone else. Jim M

Answer 7

some times arguements bring people together.its one way of knowing how the other person feels about you.leave them to sort their feelings out

Answer 8

some people like to be under somebody else's thumb it makes them feel loved and needed.
even though they fight alot it still gives them a sense of security

every one is different.
don't even try and understand it because to each his own

Answer 9

it's a sign of stupidity I think you would be better off without him. He likes the drama and that's about it . find someone without drama. Personally drama should stay on the TV

Answer 10

may be your girl friend wants a time out with his ex maybe itis tosolve the problem they had