Ok, so I like this girl that I've gone to school with for 2 years (Small school), were really good friends and its one of those friendships where (Not meaning to sound cliche) you can be yourself, and I guess it finally dawned upon me that i like her, but I dont want to ruin the friendship we have because i know if i do ask her out and she says no, things would be awkward. Anyway i guess what im asking for is, any good advice on some subtle hints and ways to show her that I like her?
2006-11-18 06:33:50 · 9 answers · asked by Stunna S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be charming, and flirt a lot. If you think she likes you, ask her to hang out on the weekend with you.....if you guys are already doing that, just ask her. If she's truly your friend, she won't mind, and this could even strengthen your friendship!
2006-11-18 06:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, know for real that you really like her and it is just not a familiarity thing. Has she shown any signs of increasing the friendship level by a notch? A common mistake many people do is to complicate relationships. She would be a good friend and all that but if she thinks that you are just a friend, then it would be advisable not to ask her out.
Now, for subtle hints and ways to show her that U like her... Talk to her saying that you really cherish her friendship and that you don;t want to spoil it in any way. Say that you really like her and that you want to go out with her and that this is not because of familiarity. Tell her that you thought of it for a very long time and had to decide between telling you and risking jeopardising the friendship, or keeping quiet and agonizing yourself. Also, tell her that you would totally understand if she doesn;t want to take it to the next level (and keep up to your word). Tell her that she is your friend first and that is the relationship you would always want to cherish even if you won;t get her. Her happiness is what you want and it doesn't matter how as long as she is happy. If she is happy with you, then that is an added bonus.
Just remember, whatever happens, don't regret having made the move, whatever may be the outcome. And keep up your word. That is really important. Don't strain a relationship which is going well.
2006-11-18 14:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by l_kur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just ask her out, straight up.
But don't try to rush things.
There's a good chance that she feels the same way & knows how you feel about her. If so, this will become evident soon enough.
If the friendship is as strong as you say, it should survive, no matter what happens.
I know this is a little risky, but it beats living with uncertainty.
Good luck & happiness to you.
2006-11-18 14:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Valentines Day is soon here, you should give her a rose or flowers or a nice card but don't make it obvious that you like her or else she'll feel awkward like you say or she'll start asking her friends for advice. But sooner or later you have to tell her the truth, because she might find a boyfriend, and you two will have to be friends, so don't wait a longtime!!!
2006-11-18 17:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by chris babeeboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to keep her as a friend then kill those feelings for her. I feel in love with my best friend she was the greatest person I've ever met. She would help me out when I was down and even stoped me from dating a loser girl friend that cheated on me. We were us no hiding anything. I knew I was in love and finally asked her out after a month of tring to stop the feelings. What happened after I told her how I felt almost killed me. I always protected her like she did me and after she said She was scared of me after I told her my feelings. I did what I knew how I made the person she feared leave her alone witch was me. I only seen her once since then and she did even know who I was, so save your self the same fate as me and keep your friend a friend until she has feelings for you and comes out with them.
2006-11-18 14:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask if she wants to get together after school or on the weekend for something casual. If so, build from there. Don't jump from friends to romantic date-- take a few steps in between.
2006-11-18 14:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well does she act like she likes you? Or is it jsut a friend-to- friend relastionship? If you think she may be interested make a move...like when yall are out at the movies be close and possibly hold her hand...or just tell her you like her...yah it might be akward but what if you lived your whole liking her and she liked you...Never know until you find out! Good Luck
2006-11-18 14:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by *Breath* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its not the romantic way, but maybe just ask.
Maybe decide ahead of time that whatever does or doesn't happen the friendship is PERMANANT. Not much is these days. Protect it, then see if ya can get more.
2006-11-18 14:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself i think she already likes u
2006-11-18 14:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by goldbody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋