me and my boyfriend have been togetha for 4months now..the first two months we used to hang out all the time he used to be affectionate and the whole nine...now recently he is jus stopped doin those things... and he says im needy when i ask him about was goin on wit him..i dont know was goin on and i find myself tellin him dat i miss him and all that and he jus says silly things like ok...im thinking he has problems wit opening up ...help me out guys was wrong wit him
2006-11-18 05:53:30 · 24 answers · asked by gina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is a bloke lol try to spice things up, if that doesnt work it could be he is trying to let you down gently try talking to him , take him out for a meal and have a chat... good luck
2006-11-18 05:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by pammy d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he may have problems opening up, but if so he wouldn't have been so open the first two months unless it was a physical escapade. When I was younger me and a lot of my g/f's would have a great couple of months then I would lose interest in her and want to do those things with someone knew. I don't know if all guys go through that, but I did. Also make sure he doesn't have a g/f outside of you because that could also be the reason for sudden loss of interest. If he isn't messing around behind your back, Try to make him experience what you are going through. A reverse physcology tactic. Still show him affection, but not near as much as he is used to. He may be used to you giving him so much attention that he kows he can control the relationship however he wants to. Also make sure you show him you still have a life that involves your own interests. Showing him you don't need him to have a good time should hit home with him. For example go out with your friends and when he tries to be around you tell him you and your friends have made plans but he can make plans to be with you before they have already. Hope the advice is helpful. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-11-18 06:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is everything else in the relationship the same way it used to be? Have u changed or done anything different? Most of us change according to the female. If she doesnt be the same person we started with we may begin to change to a different person. We are subject to becoming bored with the relationship. Im not blaming u but make sure u r the same before u ask him. I know the door swings both ways in a relationship. Relationships are basically balance and compromise.
2006-11-18 06:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is basically wanting a break from all of the affection. In most new relationships in the beginning its all lovey dovey and then things come to a halt. Just play his game, back off and have him missing and wanting ur affection. Give him what he wants, he says ur needy, show him the opposite of needy and stop wanting him so much and see what happens. It works every time and u WILL be pleased!!!!!
2006-11-18 05:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's having second thoughts and you're pushing him away by being in his face. So tell him you need your space, don't call him, go out with the girls and make sure he knows you're having a great time - he wants to be with the person you were 4 months ago, not the whinge bag you are now, so do something aobut it.
2006-11-18 05:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that he is getting board of you if he is not spending that much time wit ya any more and dont hang around for him to break your heart he thinks your needie ? really he knows your not you want comfort and if he is not the same like be for then there you go he is trying to get you bored of him so he doesnt have to tell you the truth or not
2006-11-18 06:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm i think you should back off abit and see what happens, If he really likes you he will start missing you and the affection should start coming back, Try and talk 2 him about this though because there might be some other reasons like soemthing happening in his personal life.
2006-11-18 05:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by 132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be so needy. Start hanging out with your friends again and miss a few of his phone calls.
2006-11-18 06:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's got problems opening up to you in that sense. I think he's afraid to be honest with you. His feelings has changed towards you and he doesn't feel the same about you as he did 4 months ago. He's got to know you and does like what he's seen.
You need to cool it off with him. Don't force something that won't be reciprocated.
2006-11-18 06:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty simple. He is not interested in you anymore-he got what he wants.. now he wants to move on but doesn't know how..so he is acting like a jerk maybe you'll break-up with him. Also, he may keep you around when in fact he wants a different girl.
2006-11-18 06:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mara D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are always at their best at first. How else are they going to hook you? It's like fishing. They use their best bait to lure you in. Once you're hooked and reeled in, then you get to see what's really going on.
If he's not treating you the way you deserve to be treated...tell him. It's not always going to be love letters and roses, but if his behavior is as lame as it sounds, then he needs a wake up call.
Or...you'll be back out in the sea.
2006-11-18 05:58:11 · answer #11 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋