I finally told the guy I've been dating for awhile that I love him and he said he was really happy, but he wondered why I've never said it before (since he has). Then he said that this changes everything and he has to think for a few days. He said it was nothing bad when I asked...he assures me that he is very happy but in shock because he never thought I would say it. I am so confused...why would he have to think if nothing is wrong??? Any ideas?
2006-11-18 05:39:58 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, it's not guys who have to think. It's "your" guy that has to think. There is a problem. Don't be fooled. Why would a person say "I Love You" & the other person have to take a few days to think about it? Be patient. Give a few days & when it's time to talk drill him until your get your answers. If he's not truthful with you, you have a decision to make.
2006-11-18 06:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'll explain it for you.
Guys are wary of defining a relationship. Gals love to define relationships, it's a form of commitment. I've even known women who label it The Talk, as in they've been dating for a while and it's time to take the next step.
For a guy, that's just the first step of the marriage aisle.
I believe (and it's just me) that women would have a much more engaging relationship if they did not try to define it and allow the relationship to evolve on it's own.
2006-11-18 13:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seem that for him, your apparent lack of commitment made him consider that the relation was not going anywhere and possibly not worth sacrificing something for.
I would imagine that he recently made a decision in which that fact played a role. I can't say exactly what it is in his situation, but it could be something like living arrangement (chosing an appartment with a roommate), taking a very taking job or one out of town, college choice (one that would send him far away), making himself available to a more fullfilling relation, breaking up, financial deals, etc
Now he would like to revisit that decision since it could play an important role in his (and possibly your) future.
2006-11-18 14:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda Miyagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be hes unsure of completely commiting like to a mariage possibility.
I think now that he is sure of ur feelings he doesnt want the feelings to go too far or for u to start dreaming ,,ntill he decides and is sure to cmmiting.
He seems like the kind of guy who keeps his commitment and such ppl need to tink alot before commiting.
2006-11-18 13:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he ?? Sounds like he is 13 and was just telling you he loved you to get some action. He should be excited that you feel the way you do and if he has to think about it , you should reconsider your true feelings for this new person that has appeared.
2006-11-18 13:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he doesn't want to commit to something with you.
It would seem, from what you wrote, that he said he loved you only to get you to act a certain way, or to get something from you.
You saying it to him places the relationship into a more committed status and he must not be sure he wants that.
I would really question his motives....
2006-11-18 13:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to marry you? It really depends on a lot of things... just wait and see what he says!
2006-11-18 13:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by The Answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are correct...
Something seems odd..
Perhaps he now has his eye on another girl ?
2006-11-18 13:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suddenly he has to contemplate the possibility that you are the only one he gets to bang.
2006-11-18 13:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he was saying that to get action..
2006-11-18 13:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋