Does it make a difference?!?

Question

Well i have a boyfriend of almost 2 years now. We have been thru ups n dwns n all around. He loves me n I definetly love him!! But my Mom and also his Mom believe that we shouldnt be together, becuz of our age difference he is 18 and I am 15. Bt our birthdays follow one another. His is in april n mine is in may. I love him with all my heart and its not perfect but we are getting there. We are working on a lot of things at this current moment also. Like we are working on trust and communication. And now on top of all that we have our parents to worry about. They believe our love is just temporary, but I believe that it is forreal even though I am younger than him. They say im not mature enough for him. But I have done a lot of mature for him but they dont no that I have. I want to make this work so bad but we have so much of a difference wit each otha. We got to worry about the law but that isnt really a factor.I know what we have to do to solve these problems bt he is bein negative...

He is on house arrest so we really cant see each other besides at school. And he has a bad past with his ex girl before me like he was really in deeplove with her but then she broke his heart by cheating on him!! And now he has a lot of trust issues and doesnt like for me to go out and have fun n stuff n he is always scared that he is going to get hurt once again but I ALWAYS tell him that I am not like that and I would neva do dat to him but he always compares me to her like well she said da same thang but im not her but you no it takes time. He treats me good but sometimes he doesnt becz he doesnt want to see me hurt him so he holds bck how he feels and how much he really does love me to save himself. but wen he gets off house arrest we are going to get couples counseling but until then we r gonna try our hardest to make it work da best way it can. What do u thinnk? Can u help me?

WHAT DO U DO WHEN U LOVE THEM? N THEY LOVE U BT UR PARENTS DNT LIKE THE IDEA THEY SAT U CAN B TOGETHA N IF ITS REAL 2 YRS 4M NOW U WILL FEEL DA SAME BT JUS NOT NOW. BT I DNT WANT TO GIVE UP WITH OUT A FIGHT AND ESPECIALLY ALL THE THINGS WE'VE BEEN THRU Y WULD WE GIVE UP NOW AFTA ALL THE OTHA BAD THINGS THAT WE HAVE EXPERIENCED TOGETHA!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?!????

Answer 1

Because girls generally mature quicker than boys, you are probably the same mental age as your boyfriend. So, that's not the problem. It sounds like both of your parents are concerned about the physical time you spend together.

Here's the thing...you say you know what you have to do to solve these problems. Do you really know? What you need to do is tell your families that you're willing to be chaperoned if you're allowed to continue dating. If you're really in love, you can survive a couple of years. Or, in a year maybe your family will see that things are good with you and your boyfriend. If your boyfriend doesn't go for that...there's a problem...and it's not your moms...it's him! The point should be to be together...not to be physical with one another.

Whether you stay together forever or not isn't important...although it might seem like it's consuming your life. Having a good partner who just wants your friendship and to communicate with each other...even if it means having someone else around is what's really important! Good luck!

Answer 2

Your too young, your parents are right, you should be worrying about your education and where you are going in life. You will have tons of boyfriends by the time your 25.

Answer 3

not that im all for this relationship because it is concerned statutory rape if your intimate with hin in any way! but girls mature faster then boys so im guessing you are still up on him by a good year or two:) lol....

Answer 4

Well first off, if u do anything wit him thats rape, plus it probubly isnt forever, just go with what makes you happy now

Answer 5

three years is not that big difference but you should be careful cause ur parents might be right or wrong..