why do parents count to correct there kid?

Question

makes me laugh,parents going ''1---2---3.What are you counting for?.tell him(her) what to do,if they don't do it..woop that butt,what's the big deal.Sheesh,make a career out of it.

Answer 1

I BELIEVE THAT, MOST PARENTS PRACTICE THIS METHOD, AS A WAY OF INTIMIDATING THEIR CHILDREN TO THE POINT OF OBEDIANCE.

I AM CONVINCED THAT THIS IS NOT THE PROPER WAY TO TRAIN AND TEACH CHILDREN.

SOMETIMES THERE IS NO TIME TO "COUNT".


WE SHOULD BE COMMUNICATING AND EXPECTING STRICT IMMEDIATE OBEDIANCE FROM OUR CHILDREN-ANYTHING LESS IS REBELION(ON CHILD'S PART) WHAT DOES OUR CHILD-LIKE BARGANING, COUNTING,YELLING,ETC.. COMMUNICATE TO THEM? LETS NOT BE LAZY IN CORRECTING,EXHORTING,PRAISING AND DISCIPLINING OUR CHILDREN. MAY SOUND "NAZI" LIKE,BUT MY THREE CHILDREN TURNED OUT TO BE VERY GOOD,WELL RESPECTED, YOUNG ADULTS.

Answer 2

I find myself counting as a last chance... When I have to correct behavior more than once I will say "I am counting to 3 if you are not moving by the time I reach 3 you will get it" Meaning time out, grounding, or what ever other puunishment I have already said they will get... For my kids they knew that was the limit they had pushed me far enough and the time had come to straighten up and fly right for face the consequences..

I also count when my kids have me completely frustrated... I count to 10 before answering the 5,000th question of the day so when I answer I am calm and don't answer "Mom why is the sky blue?" with the answer "Because it is, it has always been blue, it will always be blue, I am so tired of telling you, yes it really is blue, now don't ask another question until you are 45." By counting to ten before I answer I can more calmly explain "The sky is blue due to the refraction of light through the upper atmosphere and the reflection of the ocean. Now why don't you go find something else to ask questions about we have discussed the sky long enough."

Each parent is different I chose and choose to allow my children the last few second during counting to decide whether or not they are willing to face the consequnces.. Most often they decide they would much rather straighten up and fly right...

It's a personal choice just like your choice to not count is a personal choice.. Parents can not all parent exactly the same each parent chooses what works for them and goes with it...

Answer 3

Hey, check out my previous answers, I spank as much or more as anyone. I however do use that 1 - 2 - 3 method too. If I get to three, then that's direct defiance and the pants come down, and to bottoms turn red!!! I don't put up with direct defiance period!!!

the 123 method is a great warning system though. It gives them a chance to correct their behavior before I have to.

I know what you mean though, it's kind of funny when I see someone count to 3 then not know what to do.

Good Luck

Answer 4

kids need a little extra time to think through their actions. The counting isn't the first time the kid has heard it, so they know that they have till "3" to comply or face consequences. Also, the counting helps the parent take a little time to cool down as well. This only works however, if the consequences have been clearly explained and understood. You wouldn't want a whuppin without warning or a chance to do the right thing, would you?

Answer 5

I count for my baby, he's only 2. The counting gives them a chance to do what you told without a "wooping" as you put it. If he doesn't do it after 3, guess what. Corrective actions are taken. Some parents just count and count, not me. He gets told, counted for, than I correct his behavior as I see fit.

Answer 6

I count to 3 b/c it gives my2 yr old a chance to fix what she did and when i get ot 3 if she hasn't done what i asked her to she get a whooping and she gets put in the corner(which she hates). the counting method is for small children, older kids should not have to be counted at it's a waste of time. and for the parent's who count and do nothing they should just not count at all.

Answer 7

do no longer enable it project you. babies are certainly curious, and don't have the existence adventure to renowned the thank you to shelter that which looks distinctive from the norm, whether it particularly is an inanimate merchandise, an unfamiliar animal or a human with seen transformations which incorporate those of your niece. I additionally would not be too perplexing on the mothers and dads - they comprehend that asking questions on the subject of the obtrusive is how babies learn. on condition that the determine encourages actual abuse might I react - and then i might slap the crap out of 'em! Or call the cops - whether that's a baby that actual assaults yet another baby, the determine is finally in charge and could be held to blame.

Answer 8

Ayesha hit the nail on the head with the answer. What would the world be like if a cop didn't say "stop or I'll shoot"? Bloody streets, that's for sure. A person should have the right to correct the behavior before the whoop.

Answer 9

I think that parents do that to scare their kid into doing the right thing or doing what they want their kid to do. I agree I dont think parents dont have to count. Just whoop or spank them that way they know you not playin.

Answer 10

Are you a parent?

It happens to work. It puts a time limit on things and kids to respond to that.