It's been over a year now and we've all gone through the changes of adjusting to the loss of my husband and thier father, but I still don't feel like I used to with them. I know I still need time to heal but I feel like I could be doing better and I'm not sure how. Please only sincere answers.
2006-11-18 05:18:40 · 9 answers · asked by cathandra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to your kids, be honest. you are still a family. this is a good time to heal together. see how they feel and try to work with each other. explain you are doing the best you can. start doing things together, even if it is just the dishes.
2006-11-18 05:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. Maybe you are just feeling numb from the loss. I am sure your children are strongly linked in your heart and mind to your husband. Maybe you are pushing them away because they are a daily reminder of what you have lost.
But try looking at it this way- they are daily affirmation of the love you had and shared with your husband and he will always be alive in them. So long as you have your children you will always have a piece of him here with you on earth. By loving them and being a good mom you can find some peace and happiness. I wish you the best.
2006-11-18 05:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by d☻min☺ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether your lose is from a death or a divorce, there is a grief process that one will go through. It is different for everyone, and the length of time varies as well. My suggestion is that you would seek some grief counseling. A good place to seek some is at a hospice agency, they sometimes offer free counseling for families and children and even individual. You could also find a support group which can be very helpful. Good luck to you and God bless********************************************************
2006-11-18 05:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about it.But the fact remains that you have to put it an extra efort for the sake of your kids.Else they may have to deal with double loss-one their father's who is no more and the second their mother's in the form of negligence
2006-11-18 05:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by money money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now is The time you need the children the most and they need you too. do not be distant to them, make extra effort to have dinners and get together with them. try to bring them closer to you. i have been through this same thing. only i was one of the children
2006-11-18 05:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by roy40372 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am sorry for what happened but u have reponsibility through ur kids ,talk with them and ask for their help ,am sure they will suport u. now u have each other & u need each other
2006-11-18 05:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by behnoush_k_1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that your kids are part of your husband and when they're happy he's happy.
Good Luck!
2006-11-18 06:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sal G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is still around...everyday! he is 50% of them.....look at them and youll see some of him in each of them......"personality,,looks" your hurting your kids .....their is no reason why you guys cant lean on eachother.......close the gaps now or spend the rest of your life wishing you did....close the gaps!
2006-11-18 05:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
family counselling would be best. chances are they need you too.
2006-11-18 05:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋