im going out with this boy tomorow, im 14, and he's 16. were going to the cinema. and hanging out after. any tips on what to do, say, or act?
and im also scared i could get pressured into doing things... thought i know he wont try anything yet. is there a way to tell your ready for sex?
2006-11-18 05:11:35 · 25 answers · asked by X*~BABS~*X 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the fact that you are asking means you are not ready
2006-11-18 05:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by cereal killer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. You are 14, he is 16. The two of you are going to the movies, the two of you will be hanging out afterwords. Where did you get the impression of having sex. Why do you feel like you want to have sex and he is the one. I am not sure I like him, I do not even know if I am going to see him again, but I want to have sex because I think I am ready. Darling, I might be a little outdated but I still feel that you should wait for someone that is in love with you and that you are in love too. Wait for a real boyfriend that you are in a serious relationship and also it wont spread rumours about you. NO matter how modern society is, if you have sex with a guy in the first time that you barely know he will tell the entire high school and you will be getting bad names. very soon you will be popular as the girl that does everything in the first time, in the first date. You do not want that for you, DO YOU? Boys will always be boys and they will tell everybody. Do you fell pressure to do things because maybe your girlfriends are not a virgin anymore. I am sure they will respect you and admire you for standing up for yourself. Respect yourself first and foremost and protect yourself and your name and reputation. If you do not do that, Certainly this boy wont respect you too.
2006-11-18 14:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 honey, you are not ready for sex -not only is it not even debatable, it's also ILLEGAL for you to have sex under the age of 16.
Just go to the movies and have a great time! If you are concerned that he will pressure you into something make sure you have a definite time to be home! Keep you mobile with you and don't be afraid to say NO. It never killed anyone!
Stay safe!
Ps: For future reference - Sex on the first date is a NO NO!
2006-11-18 13:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by honeyed_dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely not ready for sex...a) because you're 14, b) because it's a first date, and c) because you're asking us!
I'd like to know where you're hanging out, cos if it's at his house, then yes, you might well feel pressured into doing stuff that you don't want to do. So you need to be strong and realise that if you do choose to do something with him, it's quite likely that he might dump you the next week and then tell all his friends that you were rubbish, and then all the girls will think you're a slag. Believe me, young boys are really childish and stupid, and you're better off waiting until you've been with someone a long while, before you even think about giving them anything in a physical way.
2006-11-18 13:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just realx, be youself, have a laugh, and don't worry about waht kind of impression you're making.
This is a first date and you're 14. You shouldn't even KISS unless you really really want to!
And no-one, whether they're 14 or 44, should EVER have sex on a first date. It's the best known method ever for not getting a second date.
Keep it cool, don't act too keen, and DO try to enjoy yourself!
Good luck :-)
2006-11-18 13:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he takes you out on a date, it doesn't mean that you have to have sex with him.
On a first date, maybe just a kiss and cuddle, take your time, you have sooo many years ahead of you for sex and relationships. The last thing you wan to do is fall pregnant at such a young age, or get a reputation.
If you don't trust him not to pressure you, he's not the one.
Good luck and enjoy the film.
xx
2006-11-18 13:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask then your not ready, ask yourself that considering the consequences, are you ready to screw up your life??? think about being 15 and having a baby, dropping out of school, having to tell your parents what happened, etc, etc.
just hang out and have fun then say No, remember he might be with someone else this time next year, but you could be a young mommy and on your own.
2006-11-18 13:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for sex unless you have the resources to raise a child on your own. At 14 that would be virtually impossible. You should ask your parents what they think about this.
2006-11-18 13:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by mnemows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, enjoy your first date. But I'm believe in sex after marriage because someone told me that once he's done doing his thing with you, when you have to go pee it stings and also you may have a little blood coming out as well. You can tell if your ready for sex when you are ready for sex when you know that he loves you and when you have that wedding ring on your finger.
2006-11-18 13:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not on a first date girl, no matter how old you are. Just enjoy yourself and if anything makes you feel uncomfortable, just say so. Never be pressurised into having sex. You're young and have plenty of time. I waited till I was 19 and have no regrets.
2006-11-18 13:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if your ready on a first date congratulations you will be the recipient of the reputation as a ****. At 14 if you were to have sex trust me, one day you will regret it. Try to live by the rule of not doing anything you may regret for the rest of your life. and this is one of them.
2006-11-18 13:17:07 · answer #11 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋