Am I truly forgiven for what I have done to my family??

Question

A couple of years ago I was a very selfish young lady. I moved out on my sick grandmother and father to be in a female/female relationship.
My grandmother wound up dying the day after I moved out. My father had to placed in a nursing home because he was unable to care for himself and no one else would do it.
All of this happened a couple of years ago.
I have given up the female relationships. I am completely str8 now with no female thoughts.
I have since moved my dad to the state where I am. Though he doesn't live in my home he lives in a home that is close enough that I am able to visit him a couple of times a week.
I have also accepted Christ into my life and have repented for all of my sins.
The family that I have back home hates me and feels that I am responsible for what happened to my family.
Although I have repented of my sins and am so very sorry because I do miss my grandmother very much, am I truly forgiven??

Help a hurting sister please. I am tearing up now

Answer 1

There's still fornication between a man and a woman that must be avoided.

Salvation

Definition: Preservation or deliverance from danger or destruction. That deliverance may be from the hands of oppressors or persecutors. For all true Christians, Jehovah provides through his Son deliverance from the present wicked system of things as well as salvation from bondage to sin and death. For a great crowd of faithful servants of Jehovah living during “the last days,” salvation will include preservation through the great tribulation.

Will God, in his great mercy, eventually save all humankind?

Does 2 Peter 3:9 indicate that there will be universal salvation? It says: “The Lord is not slow about his promise as some count slowness, but is forbearing toward you, not wishing that any should perish [“he does not want anyone to be destroyed,” TEV], but that all should reach repentance.” (RS) It is God’s merciful desire that all of Adam’s offspring repent, and he has generously made provision for forgiveness of the sins of those who do. But he does not force anyone to accept that provision. (Compare Deuteronomy 30:15-20.) Many reject it. They are like a drowning man who pushes away a life preserver when it is thrown to him by someone who desires to help. It should be noted, however, that the alternative to repentance is not an eternity in hellfire. As 2 Peter 3:9 shows, those who do not repent will perish, or “be destroyed.” Verse 7 (RS) also refers to “destruction of ungodly men.” There is no thought of universal salvation here.—See also the main heading “Hell.”

Does 1 Corinthians 15:22 prove that all humans will eventually be saved? It says: “As in Adam all die, so also in Christ shall all be made alive.” (RS) As shown in the surrounding verses, what is under discussion here is resurrection. Who will be resurrected? All whose death is attributable to Adamic sin (see verse 21) but who have not also personally committed the willful transgressions set forth in Hebrews 10:26-29. As Jesus was raised from Hades (Acts 2:31), so all others who are in Hades will be “made alive” by means of the resurrection. (Rev. 1:18; 20:13) Will all of these gain eternal salvation? That opportunity will be open to them, but not everyone will take hold of it, as is indicated at John 5:28, 29, which shows that the outcome to some will be adverse “judgment.”

What about texts such as Titus 2:11, which refers to “the salvation of all men,” according to the rendering of RS? Other texts, such as John 12:32, Romans 5:18, and 1 Timothy 2:3, 4, convey a similar thought in RS, KJ, NE, TEV, etc. The Greek expressions rendered “all” and “everyone” in these verses are inflected forms of the word pas. As shown in Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words (London, 1962, Vol. I, p. 46), pas can also mean “every kind or variety.” So, in the above verses, instead of “all,” the expression “every kind of” could be used; or “all sorts of,” as is done in NW. Which is correct—“all” or the thought conveyed by “all sorts of”? Well, which rendering is also harmonious with the rest of the Bible? The latter one is. Consider Acts 10:34, 35; Revelation 7:9, 10; 2 Thessalonians 1:9. (Note: Other translators also recognize this sense of the Greek word, as is shown by their renderings of it at Matthew 5:11—“all kinds of,” RS, TEV; “every kind of,” NE; “all manner of,” KJ.)

Are there scriptures that definitely show that some will never be saved?

2 Thess. 1:9, RS: “They shall suffer the punishment of eternal destruction and exclusion from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his might.” (Italics added.)

Rev. 21:8, RS: “As for the cowardly, the faithless, the polluted, as for murderers, fornicators, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their lot shall be in the lake that burns with fire and sulphur, which is the second death.”

Matt. 7:13, 14, RS: “Enter by the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is easy, that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard, that leads to life, and those who find it are few.”

Once a person is saved, is he always saved?

Jude 5, RS: “I desire to remind you, though you were once for all fully informed, that he who saved a people out of the land of Egypt, afterward destroyed those who did not believe.” (Italics added.)

Matt. 24:13, RS: “He who endures to the end will be saved.” (So a person’s final salvation is not determined at the moment that he begins to put faith in Jesus.)

Phil. 2:12, RS: “As you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” (This was addressed to “the saints,” or holy ones, at Philippi, as stated in Philippians 1:1. Paul urged them not to be overly confident but to realize that their final salvation was not yet assured.)

Heb. 10:26, 27, RS: “If we sin deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful prospect of judgment, and a fury of fire which will consume the adversaries.” (Thus the Bible does not go along with the idea that no matter what sins a person may commit after he is “saved” he will not lose his salvation. It encourages faithfulness. See also Hebrews 6:4-6, where it is shown that even a person anointed with holy spirit can lose his hope of salvation.)

Is anything more than faith needed in order to gain salvation?

Eph. 2:8, 9, RS: “By grace [“undeserved kindness,” NW] you have been saved through faith; and this is not your own doing, it is the gift of God—not because of works, lest any man should boast.” (The entire provision for salvation is an expression of God’s undeserved kindness. There is no way that a descendant of Adam can gain salvation on his own, no matter how noble his works are. Salvation is a gift from God given to those who put faith in the sin-atoning value of the sacrifice of his Son.)

Heb. 5:9, RS: “He [Jesus] became the source of eternal salvation to all who obey him.” (Italics added.) (Does this conflict with the statement that Christians are “saved through faith”? Not at all. Obedience simply demonstrates that their faith is genuine.)

Jas. 2:14, 26, RS: “What does it profit, my brethren, if a man says he has faith but has not works? Can his faith save him? For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so faith apart from works is dead.” (A person does not earn salvation by his works. But anyone who has genuine faith will have works to go with it—works of obedience to the commands of God and Christ, works that demonstrate his faith and love. Without such works, his faith is dead.)

Acts 16:30, 31, RS: “‘Men, what must I do to be saved?’ And they [Paul and Silas] said, ‘Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.’” (If that man and his household truly believed, would they not act in harmony with their belief? Certainly.)

Answer 2

If what you've supposedly forgiven this person for still bothers you, then you haven't fully forgiven. Apparently it still bothers you or you wouldn't even have thought it was the cause for your stomach pains. It's not easy to fully forgive anyone for anything. You may want to but your mind won't let you because you remember the hurt it caused you. People say they fully forgive but I am not sure it's really possible because no matter how much you want to fully forgive, you will always remember what happened and you will always feel the hurt. The only way to fully forgive is when you can't feel the pain anymore, and as long as you remember, you will feel some pain. Do you still have anger? You can stil forgive and have anger, but it won't be fully forgiving. It is like just moving on and trying to live your life without thinking of what happened, but knowing that it did happen. Moving on and forgiving aren't the same thing, but it is a step forward. The stomach pains could be a medical problem, check with the doctor. It could be ulcers.

Answer 3

Yes, you are truly forgiven. (this might take a while. I really hope you have the time for a short bible study.)

Need proof? The Cross. Jesus did THAT for you so that you could be forgiven.
Need more proof? Maybe it's Father God you're afraid of? Sure, I understand. How about this?
Jesus said: "If you have seen Me, you have seen the Father."
Let's take a look at the first judgement in Eden and consider this. Read Genesis 3 and read why God forced Adam and Eve out. God didn't chase them out so much because they were sinful.
In fact, even then, he cared in SPITE of their rebellion (Genesis 3:21).
The next verse hit me like a bolt of lightning when it was explained to me. God said: "And now, lest he (mankind) put out his hand and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live forever...."
Think about it. Why would God be so concerned about that to the POINT of guarding it (v. 24)?
Here's a simple solution: Who is struggling with sin and living forever until today? Satan. Would God want humans to suffer like that? No. He wanted to be able to give them a way out. That's why He sent Jesus and tried to establish relationships with so many people: Abraham, Moses, David, etc.

Consider that David was an adulterer and a murderer and a HORRIBLE father to some degree (his household was a mess) and yet God called him a man after His own heart (Acts 13:22).

Yes, yes, YES, my dear, God forgives you and He loves you so much more than you can imagine. (Check Psalm 139:1-18). He KNOWS your past mistakes, your present mistakes, even the mistakes you will make in the future and He still CARES.

Bottomline? God loves YOU!! Not if you're a good or bad person. God loves you just the way you are. And I believe He wants to show you that.

I understand it's difficult to forgive yourself, especially when people remind you of your past all the time but listen, you can't change the past. You CANNOT change the past. Water under the bridge. Old news. Ancient history. You CAN change the future and the very fact that you're trying to make amends with your family is a more beautiful thing than anything else I can think of.

I've said enough. I'll let God take over now and pray that He will show you personally that He loves you oh so much.

God bless, sister.

Answer 4

If you have repented for your sins, then you are forgiven. And even if your family hasn't forgiven you...your true family in Heaven has. That is all that matters in the end. Though, not being forgiven by your family here on earth hurts.
Pray about it. Let them know, daily if need be, that you are not the same person you were before, and that you are sorry for the way things worked out. Family can not hate other family members for long. Don't give up on them. God never gave up on you, and look at you now!!

Answer 5

God knows how truly sorry u r no matter what u have done-u couldnt have prevented her death and tell those people back there that Gpd loves everyone no matter what and what u did was what u thought was right at the time so pay no attention to them.U know how truly sorry u r and thats all that matters.God also forgives u once u have repented and once u accept Christ into ur heart.God forgets once u repent and thats what matters also.-Hope i could have helped ill pray 4 u from now on know that i know what has been going on in ur life.-everyone makes mistakes even Christians!

Answer 6

If God has forgiven you, which He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins when we truly repent of them and leave them behind, then it's time you forgive yourself. Godly sorrow is part of repentance so there's a reason for feeling it but not to the point of giving yourself a continual guilt trip after you've been forgiven. You are a brand new creature in Christ Jesus if you serve Him and are obedient to the faith taught in the Word, so lift your head up high and act like a daughter of the King and like you are a member of the Heavenly Country because that's where Christians are headed to!

Answer 7

Yes you have been forgiven if you have accepted Christ and asked for forgiveness. I'm sure your father has forgiven you and appreciates your assistance in his life. As for the family back home, put them in Gods hands. There is nothing more you can do about their attitude and your garndmother may have died the day she did even if you had been there. My prayers are with you and your family that they may also find forgiveness in them toward you. Continue to grow in Christ daily.

Answer 8

You have been forgiven by the One that truly matters. It's interesting that your family hates you but that none of them were prepared to look after their own father. It seems like they are the selfish ones. When you give of yourself people expect you to just keep giving. It also seems bthat you still have a relationship with your father, which is good. Don't beat yourself up.

Answer 9

Sister, Listern very closely, if you truly repented, & turn away from your evil ways, Yes you are truly forgiven, Don't let family come between you & God. Rather your family wants to forgive you that is between them & God. Don't let the devil take away the repentance that you have done. God is first in your life now. Go with God in peace knowing your sins is forgiven & live for him.

Answer 10

You probably won't see a change in your family for some time, they will keep remembering the "old" you. What you must do is keep living for Christ until they recognize the "new" you. Do not get discouraged, keep on the path that Jesus has laid out for you, and eventually your friends and relatives will recognize you for what you are. If you are indeed a reborn Chritian, all your old sins are behind you. God Himself has promised this. God bless.

Answer 11

Remember that God has compassion for everyone. If you're truly remorseful and have asked God for forgiveness, you'll get it!

The fact that your grandmother died is not your fault, although you may link them together. You can't really change your family's thoughts though. Keep praying and talk to a pastor/deacon if you need more help.