she cries and stops. plays with her toys and stops. needs to sleep but wont. im in a mood and really honestly need to be left alone but im the only one that takes care of her. and right now im on my last nerve im sitting here balling my eyes out while she cries im loosing it please help me. I cant take it.
2006-11-18 05:07:12 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you feel you are going to lose it, the safest thing to do is put her in her crib safely, shut the door, and give yourself a 10 min. break. Otherwise you could end up doing something harmful to you or your baby. My son cries a LOT, but usually when he's teething or (for the first two months when he was colicky), anyways, for the teething, I give him Tylenol, and it does help. Maybe she's teething??? Crying is their only way they can tell you something is wrong... and it is very tough, I know. When our son was colicky, we had called the nurse line, and they told us, if we can't handle it, to do what I told you- to put him in the crib, shut the door, and go to another room for 10 min. to cool down, and get yourself back together. Also- try a walk outside- things that calm her down... a walk outside always helps our son. Or a nice bath too.
I'm sorry- i know it's really difficult at times.... my son is now 13 months old, and he's still crying here and there from teething- it's not easy! But when he's not crying, he's the happiest baby I've seen.
Goodluck!
2006-11-18 05:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a radio? If you do put it on the station with the easy listening songs and put it close to the crib. Your baby has probably cried long enough to be worn out and you mention that she needs to sleep. If she is fed and dry and you're sure that there are no physical or medical issues turn the music up, leave a few soft toys in the crib and leave the room. If she's not used to you leaving her crying she may be shocked and cry for some time. Eventually she'll go to sleep. Remember, bedtime is also for parents. You sound like you really need a break. If you can take the time that she sleeps to do something you'll enjoy like calling a friend, loving at a favorite television program, taking a long bath, etc.
All parents occasionally feel like pulling their hair out. I have a three and four year old, both with behavior issues and believe me my nerves are shot as well. However, if you find yourself regularly feeling like you're going over the edge you should talk to your doctor or even your daughter's pediatrician about getting
some help.
We all need breaks. Find a teenager or a friend who can come by and just watch the baby for a couple of hours twice a week so that you can just relax.
My heart goes out to you!
2006-11-18 05:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey. I've been there.
Sometimes even when they are dry, fed, burped and everything, they still seem to want something. And at so young, they dont understand what it is they need (even if it is sleep).
If she is all of the above, there is no harm putting her in her crib and walking away for a five minute break. Let her cry a little.
Go back in and give her a cuddle, walk up and down or rock with her. Call someone for help. Is there a friend? The childs father? Your mother or other relative that can drop by and give you a break?
If you keep feeling this way, and it is only getting worse for you, call your doctor. He/She can help - give you numbers to call for support as well as discuss postpartum depression and baby blues.
The most important thing is that you know you are not alone in feeling this way. It is completely normal - but you need to talk to someone or it may explode in a harmful way to either you or your child.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-18 05:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by BigM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby can't settle down when they feel that you are upset and stressed. Believe me your baby can tell when something is wrong. I go through those same things ( I also have a 7 month old). Baby's get bored easily and want some different kind of attention then. Try laying down with her and tell her you are going to sleep too and relax with her and feed her while your doing this and she should be able to relax enough and go to sleep. If you have family or a friend to help call them, you need a break once i awhile to keep your sanity. Baby's are alot of work, especially when your doing it on your own. So if you need a break call someone, it is not good for you or the baby to be stressed and on the edge, she needs you to be happy and to enjoy your time with her and if you need to get away for a awhile sometimes to do that there is nothing wrong with it. all moms need that. If she is tired lay her in her bed and leave the room, she will get exhausted enough to fall asleep.
Vacuuming relaxes my baby. he likes the sound and to watch me. Music up loud baby's like too. But sometimes you have to just put them down and let them cry.
Good luck. Hope some of this helped. i read some of the other answers do not give her cheerios she is too young and small she would choke.
2006-11-18 06:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tami S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you no help at all? No-one? A parent, a family member, a friend? Anyone who can take her off you for an hour ?
When you feel like this, you can end up taking it out on your baby. She also senses your distress and it's distressing her, which is why she's crying.
She may be bored, she may want your attention, and you feel you are already giving her everything. Worst of all, there is no-one looking after you.
It sounds like you may be depressed too, have you talked to a doctor about it?
Please, if you feel you can't take it, get out of ther now. If there is no one to mind her for an hour or so to let you catch your breath, is it possible for you to bundle her up against the weather and just go for a walk in the fresh air? She will probably fall asleep, and you will be able to get your head together.
You can't live like this, it will wear you down. If all else fails and you can't get out, put your baby in her cot in her room, make sure she is safe and warm, and fed, and just close the door between you and her for a short while. If she gets really unhappy, go in and pick her up, but even ten minutes of space for your head might help right now.
2006-11-18 05:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore any 'advice' that criticizes you for being stressed when your baby won't stop screaming. It is natural to be overwhelmed, and anybody who thinks there is something wrong with that is probably not a mom. I am sure that you have already made sure your baby doesn't need to eat, be changed or see a doctor, NOW, Take a breath, leave the room and your little angel for a minute while you collect yourself and when you are ready go back in and just rock your little one, hold her close and sing softly. Try rubbing her back, nursing if you are, etc...BUT first remember to only try to do any of these when you are calm and filled with love and compassion for your child. Good luck from someone who knows how hard it is.
2006-11-20 06:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by corinne b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a new mom can be very hard and stressful at times. Everyone always talks about how wonderful it is having a baby, and what a blessing it is. While this is true, nobody ever talks about how hard it can be, which can make you feel very alone. But believe me, you are not alone. What you are feeling is perfectly normal, I know, I've been there. Unfortunately I don't have any great advice. Maybe try new things with your baby. My daughter always loved it when I took her for a walk outside, or a nice car ride always put her to sleep. This faze will pass before you know it. Until then, know you're not alone and speak with someone about it if you can. Good luck!
2006-11-18 05:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by mama of two 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy to you! Rule number ONE that all parents should put as a priority is to do something for yourself. Put her in a stroller if possible. If it's really bad, the best thing is to make sure she is safe (like in her crib), and take a step to the other room or just outside for a few moments. The breather will do you good, and as long as you can hear her don't worry; I have never heard of a child crying themselves to death.
Then just imagine how you would feel if you were in a horrible mood and nobody could fix it... at least its nice to cry on someone's shoulder even if they cant make the crying stop. You are that shoulder.
2006-11-18 05:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way you did when i had my baby girl. When she cries it because she needs something or something is wrong. You sound depressed the same way I was. When you feed her she should be tired so try your best to rock her or play with her until she falls asleep. Then the trick is to sleep the same time she does. Try to introduce her new things like food, and introduce her other babies. Also ask for help from family or friends if possible. I thought I was the only one with this problem but I got through it.
2006-11-18 05:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you are upset she will feel that and it maked it worse believe me i have been here. my son would do the same put her in her crib with a monitor on so you can hear her then go in another room have some tea then when you are calmer go back in pick her up
if she is tired try singing to her rocking helps too. if that does not work try putting her in her stroller and walk her around baby like that too try some baby formula
rub her back
watch TV while rocking her
just try and stay calm. if you feel like you are at the end of your rope call a trusted friend or family member to come over and watch her for a little while why you take a break
good luck
2006-11-18 05:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~*big mama *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋