His older girl cousins dressed my 5 year old son up like a ballerina what should I do ?

Question

My sisters and nieces were supposed to be baby sitting my son. Instead I when I came to pick him up they were giving him a ballet lesson and taking pictures ?
I mean he looked adorable and funny in a pink tutu,tights and abllet shoes and seemed happy?
Do you think this mean when gils do this to little boys ?

Answer 1

This TUTU FUNNY !
My sister and I did this to our bro all the time! I miss not having a live doll to play with

Please send the pic we all need a laugh

Answer 2

The issue here is whether or not dressing a 5-yr old boy in girls clothes will cause him to be gender confused as he gets older. Most experts say "No", People are not homosexual, or transvestites because they were forced to wear a pinafore, or anything else, as a child. As long as your boy seemed happy, I would not make an issue of this.

You need to understand what makes a compulsive cross dresser. A compulsive cross dresser has a brain that is wired to produce a series of neurotransmitters, dopamines, endophrins, oxytocin, serotoin, etc. whenever he wears, touches or even thinks about wearing women's clothes. The response in his brain is very similar to that experienced by an alcoholic, or gambler, or drug induced addiction. When he cross dresses then he receives a powerful stimulus of well-being, sexual gradification, self-satisfaction, comfort... He develops a NEED to cross dress. It is highly addictive. Normally this response doesn't occur until the person reaches puberty, however early in life the person may exhibit a preference for clothing of the opposite sex for role-playing. If your son begins asking for female clothing, there may be some reason for concern. Try to understand him and let him talk about it.

Answer 3

LOL> Just laugh it off. Do kindly let him know dresses are made for girls. Studies do show that many gay males start showing signs at his age. I honesty do not think this is a sign. But asking if you should be worried, worries me. You need not stress over it. Save the stressing for the infamous teenage years when he gives you some real stuff to worry about. Worried over what? Does emulating female behavior make a child more likely to be a drug addict when they get older, become murders, leads less successful lives in general? If he does show signs, there would be no point in stressing over it. Your son will need your love an acceptance no matter what his sexuality is. There are MUCH worse things for a mother then to have a gay son. The only real gay related problems boys and men face are caused by the aftermath of lack of acceptance.

Answer 4

He may have been laughing and having fun but the girls were still wrong to do that. If the pictures were shown to the wrong people your son could be make fun of or made to feel humiliated. Its one thing for your son to be interested in ballet b/c lots of males participate in ballet but its another for him to be dressed up like a girl and have his aunts and cousins take his picture. It makes me wonder what else they have dressed him up in that you dont know about. If dressing him up like a girl is a frequent occurance it could lead to your son having an identity crisis. You need to talk to the girls and explain to them that while it was cute then you would rather they refrain from cross-dressing your son.

Answer 5

I work at a daycare center and there are lots of boys who like to dress up in tutu's or dresses or plastic high heels. I don't think it's meant mean and as long as he's happy there's no problem is there?

Answer 6

Your son was having a great time playing dress up, this isnt going to affect his sexual preference later in life, relax, this improves imaginary play and thinking about it ballet improves posture and later he can become a great martial artist. This is'nt mean in any way, my brother loved to bake since he was a lil boy, and not only is he a great father/husband but also a great cook!

Answer 7

He's five! Dressing up as something different is supposed to be fun! Girls love to dress up, and dressing up their dolls is fun as well- how fun to have a living doll! They aren't being mean, just being girls. There is no harm to your son to dress up. I talk to parents about this all the time, working in preschool, there are the parents who actually freak out when they see their little boy playing dressup in the dramatic play area. I tell them that they are just experimenting... role playing the scenarios and roles they see in their lives. We tell girls that they can be anything they want... firefighters, police, teachers, nurses... but the standard is changed for boys. They are expected to not try to be anything that is remotely "feminine". So, don't worry... let your little guy dress up and pretend to be whatever he wants- it helps him develop his creativity!

Answer 8

He's a little boy, and I don't know how old your sisters and nieces are but sounds to me like they were playing dress up with him.. I wouldn't be concerned... that's part of what a kid does playing with other kids... he'll probably play house and with dolls when he plays with girls his own age and stuff.. I wouldn't be concerned... if it bothers you though tell your sisters and nieces that he is a boy and shouldn't put on ballerina stuff.. but they are all just being kids :)

Answer 9

I honestly think most kids do this. Lord knows my sister and I did it to my brother, and it has caused him no long term damage. We actually sit around and laugh about it now. However, if there were adults involved, I'd say something to them. I did this to my brother, when I was a child, there is no way I'd do it to a little boy now.

Answer 10

Not when he's having fun. Now if the kid was 14 or 15 I might be a little more worried.