We are grown ups now, my brother and I, and my Mom finds reasons to made at us.....We are very nice people who have great lives.......I just don't understand how my mother would not want to be involved in our lives????
2006-11-18 04:37:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have done nothing to her, she just seems mad at us all the time, she is a very cranky person, the older she gets the worse it is.....very hard to be around, not a very loving mother.....
2006-11-18 04:58:03 · update #1
It could be hormones. As a mother who has gone through the change of life, I experienced times when my mouth kept insulting when my mind and heart knew I didn't mean any of what I was saying! If she is going through that, maybe it is easier to not be around than to say things she knows she doesn't mean. It is a horrible feeling to be saying something to someone that you know is hurting them and you can't seem to stop. Thankfully, I am through that period of my life now.
As a mother there have been times when my children might have thought I hated them. I can never not-love them! I dislike some decisions they might make if I see danger in their future that they don't seem to see but it is because I love them that it bothers me. A mother doesn't want her children to have to "experience" everything to learn. She wants them to learn without the hurt of experience sometimes. It is very hard to watch someone you love do something you know is going to cause pain in the future but it hard to explain it to them. Sometimes they have to go through the hurt to learn and the Mother has to hurt too while it happens. A child's hurt at any age is the worst hurt a Mother can have.
Call her and find a time when emotions aren't raw and tell her you feel like she is mad all the time and is there something you have done? Don't say it in an emotional way that will put her on the defensive. Just tell her you love her and want to know what is wrong. It might not be that she is mad. It might be anxiety or something like that. Worry can change the way you react to others. That might be what is wrong with her.
I hope this helps. I'm just letting you know what I think based on my own experience. I'm sure your Mother loves you, even if it doesn't show.
2006-11-18 05:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be medical - anything from menopause to a chemical imbalance due to depression or maybe some thing bigger,ask her when was the last time was she went to the doctor, and got a FULL physical. You may need to talk to her about it and it may cause an argument but stick to your guns and tell her you are concerned because you all love her,and she doesn't seen like herself. Good luck & take care.
2006-11-18 05:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever asked her why she does this you are an adult and deserve an answer,You will have to accept her answer, if she is going to stay away do not take it personal,you have not caused the problem so you can not fix it
2006-11-18 04:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
may be she has some medical thing going on with her a mom dont hate her kids
2006-11-18 04:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wellwhat all did youdo to her when you where a kid watever you said or did to her must have ticked her off talk to her and if that doesent work take her on montell or tyra or to a consler i mean if youhave a kid thay derserv a
grandma!
2006-11-18 04:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by stephnanie l 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
shouting
2006-11-18 04:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jodi 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋