my sister and i are fighting constently how do i talk witht her i mean she wont even tell mewho she likes, she is allways loking meout of her room,the computer room, and even my room! i need help i want herto talk to me!
2006-11-18 04:26:45 · 8 answers · asked by stephnanie l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i need help
2006-11-18 04:28:17 · update #1
we where so close but eversice she started fjh she has ben so mean i need ancers!why is she doing this?
2006-11-18 04:29:41 · update #2
I say give her space. Forcing her to tell you who she likes is not going to help. If she is locking you out for your room, I say tell your parents
2006-11-18 04:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sister... I have been there well first you might want to think about what was going on before this started..if she is your younger sister she might feel left out but fighting with her will not help if she is yelling at you just sit back and let her talk because you might get to the problem sooner that way although it may be tough to not fire back you will find it will help and if she is locking you out of rooms there is a reason for that either she is hiding something or she trying to upset you for whatever the reason but remember calm is the key and if you ask her whats up and she gets mad then let her be and just tell her when she is ready to talk you will be there... good luck
2006-11-18 12:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by D_R_M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your ages I think....
What if you gave her a cute little gift like a bracelet or necklace and say it's a peace or friendship piece of jewellery? (Have a complimentary one too)
When you guys wear your necklace or whatever you should agree to speak calmly to one another in a respectful way.
Use your words carefully and thoughtfully. When one is done talking the other can say "I hear you and I'm Listening... you said....(whatever)" Just so you both realize how the other is hearing what is said... I believe this is a type of "mirroring" exercise from psychology. It is effective.
Maybe your sis is misunderstood. Maybe it's hormonal. Maybe something's bothering her that she's afraid to talk about and she's manifesting it in an angry fashion.
Sit her down and lovingly say " I'm worried about what's going on with us, I'm afraid we aren't communicating well, I love you and I want to help if it is needed"... etc
Just don't sound like you are pointing fingers at her or sound accusingly like something is her fault. Think it through before saying anything... she sounds a bit sensitive.
Hope this helps, good luck!!
2006-11-18 12:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write her a letter if she won't talk to you. Tell her how you love being around her and if you admire her let her know, I'll share a little story with you.
I used to be so jealous of my sister everyone in our family used to say oh sherry's so pretty, sherry's so this, sherry's so that. I got so upset and jealous and felt so bad about myself that I called her names all the time and was really mean to her. When she finally couldn't take it anymore she came to me told me she loved me that I was hurting her and that she admired my outgoing personality and that she could never be like me and that she thought I was pretty too and it wasn't her fault that our family had choosen favorites and that she felt bad about it. I had no idea she cared about me so much because I was wrapped up in my feelings instead of thinking of hers, boy that little conversation woke me up. She told me that our friends referred to her as "Rhonda's sister" instead of by her name and that people always spoke of me in high regard and thought I was pretty. Truthfully all these years gone by ... she and I had a conversation not too long ago about that and how I introduced her to every boyfriend she had including the one she married. After our childhood conversation I never called her another name again and we have remained extremely close through the years. I'm pretty flattered to think that I helped her find her true love and the person she will spend her life's journey with. Talk to your sister!!!! and if she won't talk with you write her the note. Obviously you love her and want to be near her so...she just needs to hear it somehow. I hope this helps you.
2006-11-18 12:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by dribble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mebe youre doing something to annoy her. A lot of times ppl just need som privacy
2006-11-18 13:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by tennis*star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her room, she has her own privacy. YOUR room, thats messed up. a person locking you out of your own room? your sister is psycho. you and a parent should talk to her.
2006-11-18 12:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats not your buisness maybe... She does not want you to know so sit down and have a talk
2006-11-18 12:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by tauruschild8 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol you need to learn to use the space bar better
2006-11-18 12:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋