I like this guy that I have known for about 4 years now. We were just friends but in a flirty way. Then all of a sudden this year has shed light on how I really feel about him. I like him now, but I am not sure about what he thinks because I have been getting some hints that maybe he does. First, one of his sibling kept asking me if I like his brother, but I didn't acknowledge his question with an answer. Second, some time before this happened though, he had started acting strange around me, as if he was nervous or something. Third, he is always making comments on how "gorgeous" or nice I look. Fourth,he has been approaching me with singled out comments when I do something that isn't part of the focus at the time; the just me stuff I guess. Fifth, I keep catching him looking at me when stuff is going on.Ex. Group were watching t.v. and we all laughed, but every time he would look over at me and "share" the laugh I guess. This situation seems simple, yet confusing. What should I think?
2006-11-18 04:17:54 · 12 answers · asked by ZZ Mas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you guys have a great friendship going on. Just keep up the good friendship and if you want to take it to the next level and you don't know if he does or not, then you are going to have to find out. When you think the time is right, talk with him and ask him if he could ever see you two together? Make sure after you ask that you get a serious answer. After that you will know if the time is right for a relationship and if he is ready or not. He may like you but not be ready, so it's your call when and if you want to pursue it further.
2006-11-18 04:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by DN1503 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very unique relationship. It has its own indivisual characteristic(s).
This is the perfect time for you to trust your knowledge and perception of life and - just - go with the flow. This may, however, be something beyound your experience and you should stick with something that you are more accustomed to.
For example, one thing for you to do would be to accept the relationship for what it really is and not what you want it to be. A know fact is, if you think pennies, you get pennies; you think dollars, you get dollars.
The point is: it a mind over matter situation. If you think someone likes you, everything they do will look like they do, visa versa.
So, if you have been knowing this guy fo four years, then that all you have is a four year relationship. It may be in your best intrest to move no futher and just let this be.
Hope this answers your question!
2006-11-18 04:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by bkdaniels2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously since you've had these feelings for so long, maybe its not what you should think, its what you should do that is the real question. Sounds like he's going through the same thing you are-trying to see if you have the same feelings for him as he does for you and vice versa. There's only one way to find out-ask! Thinking about anything is not going to help you sort this out. So sit down, and tell him how you feel, and let him tell you, and take it from there. Good luck with that.
2006-11-18 04:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dale H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like he is crazy about you! Right now it just seems like one of you needs to make a move. He has to an extent having one of his siblings ask if you like him or not. This means that he probably talks about you. If you really like him, either let him know, or if you are shy about it, let the brother know! Nothing is going to happen until one of you makes a move. Also instead of always talking to him in a group, and see if you can get a one on one conversation going on with him. Make lots of eye contact, and stand/sit really close to him. This guy definately likes you!
2006-11-18 04:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Paris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he does have some sort of attraction for you. Perhaps you could ask him out on a date and see what happens. At least you'll know if he's really interested in you or not.
2006-11-18 04:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by violet46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The shortest distance between two places is a straight line, right? Ask him. Why waste time with the guessing game?
2006-11-18 04:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you and maybe he is shy, or maybe he is confused about how you feel, also. Start concentrating on him and be just a little more available emotionally towards him, maybe his confidence will grow enough to ask you out.
2006-11-18 04:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way - if he does not like you then something is seriously wired wrong in his brain because all those signals are are saying "I am interested in taking this one step up".
What does your gut instinct say to you? 99% of the time it's right!!!!
2006-11-18 04:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by honeyed_dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he developed some feelings for you and doesn't know how to approach you about it. But the question is How do you feel about him?
2006-11-18 04:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by BLOSSUM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you are already good friends...
you should discuss this openly..." what do you think of/perceive our friendship-relationship up to now?" and if he wants you truly he will makes a move... or not... well then, since you are already good friends, no harm done, because you discuss openly with understanding!good luck!
2006-11-18 04:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dakini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋