Guys.. i want him back. It's been 2 months since the breakup. He shows me he doesn't love me anymore and doesnt care, but deep down inside i know he does, from the way he loved me. Breaking up with him was a stupid thing to do. I know that right now u think i want him cause i know i can't get him. Do i really wanna be with him? Yes i do. i accept his good and his bad sides (reason i broke up,i wanted him to change) and love him for him. The problem is.. i have to break his shell,his ego. I have to show him that he can be himself around me like it used to be and not act like just an ex and play mind games. Don't tell me to move on cause i don't want to miss anything about what we can have. Give me ur suggestions for how i can make him feel again,to stop acting like someone else,someone who's numb. He's told people he misses me like crazy but talks to me as if he's moved on.
2006-11-18 04:14:17 · 4 answers · asked by Karine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You broke up with him because you wanted him to change. Now, you want suggestions on how to change him back. I think you should stop focussing on how he should act, and focus on your own behavior because you can only control your actions, not his. Obviously, it seems like you should have thought through breaking up more before you actually did it. You hurt him. You have to show him that you can be trusted. Apologize, be honest with him about your feelings and let him be. If he comes back to you, he is in your future. If he doesn't, then learn from the experience and the next time you're with someone you're totally crazy about, don't get caught up in fixing his flaws.
2006-11-18 04:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mojito Burrito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you act like you moved on. Be unavailable to him then maybe he will start to see. Just be a friend and build back the thing you both had, but don't push it. I'm not saying that this works all the time but maybe you need to play him at his own game.
2006-11-18 12:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by in_with_rage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not invest so much. You need to get him alone and lay everything out. If he still is resistant than maybe it is time to move on. It sounds like you had something good and let it go, now you want it back......NOW. Kinda selfish, ya think? You are probably confusing him and maybe sacring him. However, get him alone, don't make it look desperate though.
2006-11-18 12:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they told you he misses you to be nice to you. are you asking the questions about him? if he wanted you back, he would of said something. you can't change people no matter how hard you might try. sometimes if a person loves you deeply, they would try to change on their own, just for you. but if you have to make ultimatums to get him to change ,then he has no intentions on doing so. i know you don't want to hear it but maybe you should just walk away before you hurt yourself any further.and if he still cares about you he would tell you himself.
2006-11-18 12:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋