How do i tell my parents i was raped, became pregnant and lost my virginity all at the same time? would they be mad at me?I lost my baby at 2 months!!! How do i tell i was pregnant at 12? HOW!!!!!!
2006-11-18 04:10:38 · 14 answers · asked by SARAH C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow! I am so sorry that this has happened to you. What a terrible ordeal to have to go through alone. It will be very helpful if you r parents know what has happend. Are you close with your mom? If so it may be easier to talk to her by herself. Just be honest. She loves you and won't be mad at you. You had no control over this. It may also be helpful to you and it's just a suggestion to get some counseling to deal with this. Is there anyone at school who you can talk to you? They might be able to help you talk to your parents. What about your doctor? That's another person who won't judge you and can help you. There are also rape hotlines that you can call. They have counselors on hand 24-7 that are trained to help young women in these situations. Best of luck and again I am sorry!
2006-11-18 04:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by AB11 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How in the world did you get into a situation to get raped at your age? Are you hangin with the wrong crowd or was it a relative?
I believe that there is a good time for everything. If this is not the time dont tell them. That is if it causes you more stress, or you will get abused by them or if they will never forgive you.
Remember RAPE (if it was that) is NEVER your FAULT. Rape is when a man forces you to have sex. Plain and Simple. If you said NO and he continued and you struggled, this is rape. Rape is a tramatic experience. You can have lasting emotional problems from it. You really need counseling.
If you parents are loving and understanding people, tell them. Tell your mom since this is a woman thing. And how do you know you were pregnant? Just because you did not get a period after rape does not mean you are pregnant. It mean you were under stress which causes you period to stop temorarily. Did you see signs of the baby pass out?
The reason I say this all young girls think that if they have sex they atomatically get pregnant and that is not true. If the egg is present at the time the spearm enters you can get pregnant. But you are young, and it is much harder to get pregnant at 12 than at 14. Also, you need to realize that if you were pregnant and you miscarried it is for the best. You body may not be mature enough to carry a baby to term. Or the baby could have been born with mental or physical problems. God releases babies that should not be born.
Remember just because you were raped does not mean it is OK to start having sex. You are not ruined and virginity is not everything. You are too young emotionally to be having sex. Just remember when the time is right again and you love a man, you will feel comfortable to engage in sex.
This may be the hardest lesson in your young life. Make sure you think about you. Your Gods creation and he Loves you no matter what. You will make the best decision.
2006-11-18 12:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a responsible adult you can trust first, it does not have to be your parents. A terrible thing was done to you. You were violated in the most terrible way, and miscarried a child too. You cannot be expected to cope with this alone. Have you a teacher or counsellor in school you can trust? Or an Aunt, or a nice nieghbour, someone to help you tell your parents what happened? If you think there is no one, then ring the nearest rape crisis centre, their counsellors are specially trained to help in these cases. You also must at some stage, inform the police. You are under age, and a crime has been committed; you have been assaulted in the worst way a woman can be.
Please find someone NOW and tell them what happened. You are in great distress and help. What worries me is the sort of lifestyle there is in your family that permits such a thing to happen to a young girl; how could your parents not know of your distress?
Pick up that phone, talk to that person you trust. Do it now.
2006-11-18 12:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you know whether they will be mad at you. But, being raped was not your fault. It must have been a terrible experience.
There are rape crisis centers and hotlines. You might want to find one and talk to somebody trained in all this. If you have an adult you can trust (aunt, friend's parent, teacher, counselor, whomever), can you confide in her?
This isn't something you should have to cope with alone. How old are you now? If you are carrying this problem inside you, it probably should be brought out so you are under less emotional pressure.
If you mean that you lost your viriginity by being raped, that, too, isn't your fault.
2006-11-18 12:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can ask for the assistance of a school counselor (if your still in school)
this happened to my daughter (well the rape part anyway) and she didn't tell us anything, and she finally had a break down....thank god she was seeing a counsslor...he was the one that notified me of the situation, and the police etc.
you need to press charges, and tell your parents....this was not your fault!!!
I helped my daughter through this, (and the scumbag did get jail time) let the police do thier job!
she is better now since she was able to release all of these feelings..
2006-11-18 12:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by ari_is_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will not be mad at YOU they will be mad at the boy. If you tell, you will feel like a great weight has been lifted from you and you will be able to go on with your life. All day, every day, all you think about right now is how to tell your parents or friends, right? Remember they are there to help, and carrying that around with you for the rest of your life is not the thing to do. You didn't do anything wrong, don't be too ashamed to talk about it.
2006-11-18 12:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, honey I am so sorry that that has happened to you but you must tell your parents. They will not be mad at you they will understand. Also rape is a crime and that man should be put in jail before he does it to some other innocent girl. I know it's hard to tell them but you must they will support you and get you the help that you need.
2006-11-18 12:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will not be easy, if you can't tell them tell a school counselor, the rape needs to be reported and the guy prosecuted. So he don't rape again. and you need to be in counseling for your loss.
2006-11-18 12:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this happened and your parents still dont know about it.Some how that doesnt make any sense. If and I say If you were raped your parents will only care that you are okay.
2006-11-18 12:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them the truth, my dear girl, parents love their children, they will do what ever it takes to protect your interest, if you know the rapist, tell them who he is and they will know what to do next.....report him to the police and put him behind bars so he wont harm another victim
2006-11-18 12:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by buckie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋