what to do in bad situation with parents?

Question

the other night in a ride home, i was sitting and being quiet as usual, then my parents started asking me questions, normal questions, and i stupidly thought that for once id get to answer one of their questions. so i started talking and they just talked over me as usual. then they brought colleges and what not and how am i gonna make money, and every suggestion i made they would laugh at like i was stupid, then they would make fun of me and my work ethic. this sort of thing usually happens, i cant remember a time where i have had a nice conversation with my parents, without being laughed at or made fun of, so after they laughed and made fun of me more, i finally snapped, and flat out called them both @ss holes. they to laughed at that and made fun of me, but now they havent spoken to me in a week, they wont tell me where they are going or when they will get back. they are waiting for me to apologize, but thats not going to happen.
P.S. i am 15

cant apologize, they would sit their with smirks on their faces and them make fun of me after i do it.

i answered them in a calm way, they asked what school i want to go to, what am i goign to do for a job.

another thing you guys should know, i have tried my best to steer clear of conformity in my generation. i am not one of those teens that weae their pants around their knees, listens to rap, and does drugs. i tried my best to not piss adults off. i am not (or at least i hope im not) just some bratty teenager.

and i do love them, until recently i used to not be able to bring myself ot even think bad things about them for fear it would come back around. i was constantly scared that i would lose them. and all through that time they did the same thing they were doing when i snapped the other day. its always been like this.

one thing i would like to try, is to maybe stay with my grandma or cousins for a while, but if i suggested that then they would be like "oh, so you dont love your parents anymore"

Answer 1

Depends on how you answered them...you didn't say what your answers were, so i wouldn't know what to say about it. Sounds like they have a very unkind way of dealing with you about this considering your only 15.
But, to really know if they're wrong, i'd need to know how you anwered them.

Answer 2

My advice to you is be persistent and consistant with whatever it is you want to do. But remember to not to be too specific with your goals. Two things I've learned in business school. Actually there were quotes professors have told me.1. "Some times you have to alter your dreams to fit in todays market." 2. "Successfull people get used to doing things they don't want to do." I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like your in the 16-20 range. A time when your are becoming your own person, but adults may still see you as a bratty teenager. Also, always remember actions speak louder than words.

Answer 3

Go and apologize to them and try to work things out today .They are your parents like it or not .You have to realize they only want the best for you .Talk to them everyday and you just may learn something from them. It is up to you right now to make things right and stop being stubborn. When you get older and have kids how would you feel if your son did what you did the other night? Horrible ! Be mature and go and talk to them now. Good luck !

Answer 4

At 15, your parents probably do KNOW best... but in this case, it seems that they are making fun of you for their own pleasure. Tell them that with their ridicule you will probably end up jobless and living off of the well fare system late into your 50's- All because they cant support you in anything... I bet that gets their attention.

Answer 5

Well, it's definitely wrong for your parents to laugh at you. That doesn't make things any easier. If my parents did anything like that to me, I would tell them that they are really hurting me when they laugh at me and they make me feel stupid. If that won't work, then write them a letter. Tell them everything you want to say. (They can't interrupt words on paper). Give it to them when you leave for school or something. Don't be around them when they read it and they won't be able to "down-talk" you.

Answer 6

Respect, it's all about that you know. Your parents were probably TRYING to have a good time with you. Do have a talk with them, and just tell them" you would like them to RESPECT YOU , that you are getting older and have new ideas and just as tho YOU did not RESPECT them, they did not respect you and could all of you try to have a better communication".(honestly, this will work)

Answer 7

send them both an e-mail ......answering the questions they asked you.....and then saying sorry for what you said.....you must still respect them...even if they laugh......and also tell them how they make you feel when they do it....in your e-mail to them ....but be adult.....write them in a respectful manner....you might be surprised at the results.....this is how i had to sometimes talk to my dad.....he stayed on my nerves........i had to be the best at all things or i disappointed him.....e-mails really helped us get along better..try it ..what do u have to lose? at least you cant get talked over..or laughed at while u do this.......but be RESPECTFUL. lol

Answer 8

i'd try writing it in a letter to them.

i'd let them also know how in their over talking you, laughing at you, that it has caused you to feel as bad as you do.

point out that you happen to be the person their groins manufactured. your your own person, yes, but your also a part of this family and you'd respect to be heard.

Answer 9

Apologize but also tell them how you feel...