So my girlfriend of 9 months just got a new job....well..about 2 months ago. She works with 4 guys and 1 girl. The guys are all really nice to her...she says that they are her only friends and that she wants me to let her hang out at their houses alone (without me) and go bowling and to the movies and such.
I am very against this however my girlfriend is not. She claims she doesn't have any girl friends but I know for a fact she has some.
Should I risk my relationship with her and say that I'm against it or should I suck it up and let her go do things with other guys?
2006-11-18 03:49:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well for starters you cannot tell her what to do..if she really wants to do this she will do it regardless of what you think. I don't believe that this situation would make me happy either..if my husband was hanging out with a bunch of women, only, no guys..it would make me more than a little nervous.
Try giving her a little more attention, take her bowling, to the movies..do the things that she is doing with those guys..and if it doesn't help..and you have good reason to believe that there is more than just a 'friendship' thing going on between any of them...perhaps it's time to seek a few girl-friends of you own..after all..apparently it's acceptable to do so in your relationship.
2006-11-18 03:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by KED 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Haha duuude. I'm sorry, but please don't listen to some of the things these people are saying. Total ****. You don't have trust issues. That's bull ****. YOUR girlfriend.... Is hanging out with other MEN. Haha it's as simple as that. Don't be fooled into thinking its all good and cool and whatever. If you're in a relationship you have no reason going and hanging out with guys going bowling and hanging out at her place alone?! Thats some **** brotha. I have a huge respect for women being the beautiful creatures they are but I also believe in laying down the law. So man, tell her what's up. But honestly if she wants to play games like that and doesn't care how it makes you feel (she shouldn't be doing it if she knows it hurts you) you need to start hanging out with some bitches. **** that man. No excuse why she should be hanging out with other guys. And don't pretend to not know how guys are. We are both apart of the male gender. They don't just want to be friends.
2014-10-04 21:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a serious relationship with that girl....If you do then she is out of line by a long way... If you are just casual and no strings then you have 2 choices ..... 1. Stop worrying because that is what your relationship is...OR 2. Change the status of your relationship.... If you like that girl you need to tell her and discuss changes... I think what she is doing is way out of line..... BUT i have seen too many situations like that go wrong.... I know there will be plenty say you have to trust her but she is one girl with many guys at one place and with lots of perverts at the other..... ABSOLUTELY NOT... If she gets a taste of that life and likes it then you have real problems.... Don't listen to these other people here dude.... keep in mind that more than 50 % of relationships fail and the reasons you gave above form part of that... I do not believe in tempting the DEVIL.... Good Luck
2016-03-19 10:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard. It do kind of seem suspicious. On their first outing ask her do you think it is right for you to join them bowling or whatever with some of your female friends. Then if she doesn't like it she know how you fell about it. But if that doesn't work then be okay with letting her go but tell her how you feel about her hanging out with other men at their own homes without you.
2006-11-18 03:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Mamii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that she want to spend a lot of time without you there... The other thing is that you do not trust her... The other things is that she will do it and to know it hurts you. I do not think you have the right to tell her that she can not go but you can tell her that you would wish she wouldn't go to the guys house and ask her up front are we having any problems. Maybe you need to find some of your own friends and maybe there is some other problems you just are not seeing. Maybe she is happy with you.and you are over reacting. Let her do her own thing if it gets to bad leave
2006-11-18 04:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she met some friends at work and they just so happen to be male. People work with co-workers and hang out with them outside of work all of the time. It's almost what you must do. How much you hang out with them depends on how well they all get along. If they are all getting along and she enjoys it, be happy for her and let her know that you're glad she found nice people at work. You are her number one option, so friends from work sounds perfectly great. Be patient and listen to her talk about the experiences she has with them, and then maybe in due time you could work your way into this group and hang out with all of them a couple of times.
2006-11-18 03:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by DN1503 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you don't let her hang out with any guys then you are only telling her that you don't trust her that she will only be friends and not cheat on you and that will only lead to troubles because girls don't want to be with a guy that can't trust them. And for the alonething, I mean I may love the man I'm with but that don't mean I want to do everything with him. I like to hang out with my freinds just me and my friends lots of times and I only have 2 friends that are girls. The rest are guys.
2006-11-18 03:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by blacknessforeverandever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this same issue with my ex. She was meeting guys at work and then hanging out with them after work. I set a boundary that she cannot hang out with a guy until I meet him first. She kept seeing them anyway and lied to me so I ended things. After we broke up sure enough she was dating and F**** these guys. My advice to you is that she is losing interest in you and is bored. Mirror what she is doing. Start hanging out with your hottest girl FRIEND and see how she reacts.
2015-11-25 13:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go you have to trust her. If their all hanging out together don't worry. If she starts favoring one out, and hanging at his place all the time way into the wee morning then, you might wont to freak out a bit. Till then let your girl enjoy life dude. )O(
2006-11-18 04:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Witchy Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its efiitely ok, don't worry just trust her, and always remind her and set some limits so you wont have to reach to a point that she might give you reasons to be jealous, state it clear as early as today what are your limitations in hanging out with her guy friend... and as long as she follow the limits and rules you won't have any problems at all
2006-11-18 03:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋