why dose everybutty hate teens?

Question

every adult think teens are rude crude and have a bad additude. but im 14 and im respectful and always happy. do you think it is fair for people and parents to not let me go places i want to and not trust me just because of my age. its like they call you a kid when they dont want you to go places but they call you an adult when it works for them. i dont think i should have to suffer for what other teens did or do. what do yous think.

Answer 1

i'm 14 years old 2... i want to do stuff that i can't but we all go through it.. what i hate is when they treat you like you are 10.. we r 14... we know alot about life than people think.. if we have a survey we'll be mature enough to pass it. i think its weird to be treated little but they will get over it. i deal w/ it.. it will pass when i am about 16 ish.. my sister is older by a couple years and she gets treated like an adult so.. just hang in there only a few more years

Answer 2

You seem like an inteligent young lady, and want to know what is going on so I can tell you from my prospective as a mom ( my son is now 17, and I am a widow.) No one really "hates " teens, some of the behaviors are what some of us have a problem with - I myself am friends with my son and his friends and offten concidered a "cool mom" but like any parent I have a problem with some ideas and behaviors. I would guess by the way you write that your parents are protective of you - In most cases this protective ness will lighten up as they feel you are old enough ( or mature might be a better word)to handle certain situationsand respncibilities. Think about what the situation is and what all the concequinces are, If you are honest to yourself about this and by that I mean not saying thing like " But I know better than to let this or that happen " If you had a ten year old would you want to let them drive ? why not? Yes, I know it's not quite the same,but it's not that different ether. Parents want teens to not just survive, they want them to thrive, be happy,healthy and well ajusted as an adult. So they do the best they can, we are human too, we make mistakes and we fail at stuff too,just like teens. The difference is that what adults fail at might be something to cost someone there life ,As for what you said about the "act like an adult but you are still a child thing".....well, the best way to explain that is that is to imagin teens as tadpoles - you just got your legs and you are ready to take on the world ! - wow it's great to be alive and wahoo! look at me now! But you( as teens) dont see the fact your legs are not strong enough to hop at top speed yet ,you (as teens) dont see the bird over head all the time waiting to eat you...so we slow you down and make you crawl out of the pond slow and push you under leaves, so you have a chance to see what is REALLY around you - but if you show causion and say " Hey I am worried about that hawk up there, we see you have matured and will say ok, so whats your next move....We tend to call you kids when your judgment is not causious and shows lack of awareness of what might be in the sky. You are at a hard time in your life and that is no joke, your not a full adult and not a child ether, life will not look fair ever, but right now it really looks onesided, and I am sorry for that. If I had a choice in what you did I would say slow down, nothing worth doing (nore the people to do it with ) will be gone when it is time for you and the other tadpoles to run at top speed - I am sure I did not help much but I hope some of this will make it a least a little more comfortable for you - I wish you well and I hope life is one day to your likeing. Take care& good luck. Sorry my spell check is down and I am a dyslexic. Please excuse my spelling.

Answer 3

Not every body hates teens; it's just the way teens act that make people upset.

"Do you think it is fair for people and parents to not let me go places I want to and not trust me just because of my age [?]"

Obviously you want to be more independent, but right now you can only whine with what you want. Instead of trying to figure out why, you complain.

You ARE a teen, and you are only 14. It doesn't matter how old or happy you act, you still are 14. You can't just skip being a teenager, sadly.

Try this: talk to your parents and explain that you would like a little more freedom. Go for the little steps first. Do NOT start saying "but I deserve it!" That's not how you will get anything. If you want to be an adult, you need to start acting like one.

Answer 4

Hello , I am a mother of a polite, caring teen (17) boy,who isn't rude ,nor does he have a bad attitude.He has a girl friend who is 15.The girlfriend is not very street saavy(wise) about stuff that my son is.Her parents do not let her go out on her own to protect her from the creeps in the world that have and will continue to prey on her naiveness.But they do let him take her places because they know that he will protect her and treat her with respect.They trust you honey, just not the unknown variables of the world that could put you in harms way.You are not replaceable.Give it time and just as anyone else ,do things that can earn their trust.Go out with trustworthy friends(trustworthy to your parents too-they see things that you are not experienced in life to see).Follow thru on every responsiblity your parents tell you to do. My son is a good kid, and he trusts my judgement in things.He and I talk alot about why I do not let him do something he may want to do.We either reach a compromise, or he learns that even though he may not like my answer,that there will be another chance for him to be trusted with what he wants to do if he respects my answer,whether he agrees with me or not.We communicate alot.But we do it respectfully.Trust your parent's knowledge and let them guide you in your choices.You will be glad you did when years from now you are out on your own and need their input on life's choices. Good luck to you

Answer 5

I agree with you, most of us suffer for the things other teens do, but not all adults hate teens, if they find out you are different, they will love you!

Answer 6

probable as a results of way they spell everybutty - and that is a sparkling one on me. "little ones scare the living s**t out of me." it is not that a techniques from the truth. observing your children develop up and bypass out right into a global that you as a ascertain is attentive to is a problematic position - now that is scary. At your age you're variety of between an adult and a touch youngster. you're crusing round in an adult's body with the impetuous mindset of an eco-friendly youngster. it is not fairly you we do not have self assurance. it is a few thing of the global, and we do not have self assurance that you'll understand a thanks to react to it.

Answer 7

Maybe your parents do trust you to make good decisions to the best of your ability. The problem is that there are people out there with twisted minds who prey upon your innocence. They want to protect you from them. They don't mean to spoil your fun, they just want to keep you safe.

Teens Rule

Answer 8

We do not hate teens, we worry about you, we think too much about all the things that can happen to you, you think that you are invincible, but we know better, it is not that we think that you are stupid, but we know better than you what is out there, and we want to protect you from it,

Answer 9

not everybutty hates teens. i think teens are respected provided they do the right thing.

Answer 10

I THINK PEOPLE CALL US "BAD TEENS " BECAUSE AT THIS POINT IN LIFE SOME TEENS DO DRUGS AND DRINK...BUT NO IT'S NOT FAIR SOME OF US ARE "GOOD TEENS"