okay so me and my mom don't really get along that great together. i love her and all but we just don't see eye to eye and end up getting in a lot of fights because she thinks i have an attitude with her. i don't think i do and i have been working a lot to try and get along better but usually we still get into fights. what are some ways that will help us get along with each other better?
2006-11-18 03:41:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
try to do an activity, watching a movie, going to a book store, a fair or something that you guys can get to know each other a little better. Also maybe finding out what she likes and give her a little gift that reflects her hobbies and interest, also be spontaneous. Surprise her with a flower or something like that. One day that you feel shes ease off, just talk to her and tell her all you've done is to try to get to get along and have a great relationship, also ask her how can you help that. Talking can help great deals, make hr feel that you need her, that you want her advice for the stuff you have going on your life.
2006-11-18 03:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand shes your Mother and you love her. But do you respect her as a person too. What do you argue about? No one ever sees eye to eye all the time. Do you still live at home? How old are you? Hard to answer without all the facts. But talking out any problems is always a good first step. She also needs to respect you as a person, it's a two way street.
2006-11-18 11:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just tell you out of personal experience, my mother is one of my best friends. We used to fight all the time and would not speak to each other for weeks. As I got older I realized that my mom isn't going to be around forever. I know it's hard because it seems like she doesn't understand you, but your mom probably feels the same way. Try this: For no reason whatsoever, give your mom a hug and tell her that you love her and you just wanted her to know that. I promise you things will turn around.
2006-11-18 11:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending some quality time with each other doing what you both enjoy doing. Avoid conversations or situations that may cause arguing. You may also try discussing with your mom things that start fights or anger you and ask her to tell you what starts arguments and angers her that you do. Your mom is one thing in your life you will never be able to replace enjoy her while you have her and try to build the relationship with things that you both enjoy and avoid or try to resolve problems that cause you two to fight with each other.
2006-11-18 11:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Shell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empathy and love.Your mother , as she gets older, she need someone to rely on. She needs the children to look after her when she is not feeling well. Her body is getting weaker and weaker.as days passed. She always getting into fight with you because you does not show enough concern over her well being or you do not convinced her that she is safe with you. As such, she tried to bring you over and make you understand that she needs you to take care of her when she getting weak and old. Thus, to get along better with her, you need to convinced her that you will take care of her.
2006-11-18 12:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well evrey one has the same proplom so chill out it will get better when both of u get older keep trying to fix ur relationship with ur mom by respicting her thats important & help her ..like waching the dishes anything it doesnt matter how small it is .... remember her in her brithday or what ever with hand made card a rose ......something tell's her that u remember & care about her i think that will make ur relationship with ur mom much better
2006-11-18 12:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by lost90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got the same problems with my mom she thinks i have an attitude too but you can't do nothing about cause with every little thing you she gets mad you argue man i know how you feelo well what i do is just relax when she fight with you and just tell your sorry even though you don't kno what you did. =]
2006-11-18 12:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Pink_qt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it;s the respect again. you don't show respect and regard her as your Mother she will feel she has to do something to make you pay attention. Then there is this; try to put yourself in her place, taking care of another human being. Ask her questions about herself. Don't let it always be YOU. Share you life with her, don't hide things. Laugh with her. I mean this all in a good way. (did you clean your room today)?
2006-11-18 12:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my daughter have the same problem.She thinks she knows best and what we normally have a problem with is I see how her decisions will affect her future.Its hard to let your kids grow up and live there own lives Try to be patient with her she loves you and just wants whats best for you.
2006-11-18 13:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by morganslilone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not say how old you are. but after raising four sons, I would say, talk to her , let her know how you are feeling, and what you want out of the relatiionship, whether you like it or not it is a relationship, and the start of how you handle future ones. Do not blow it, learn to comprise, and negotiate, and remember that she has your best interests at heart always.
2006-11-18 12:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋