am i the only one who feels this way?

Question

i have a great partner and a beautiful 2 year old daughter but sometimes i feel so frustrated with everything,the smallest thing will really cause me to lose my temper,i have thought about asking my gp for anger management as i feel i hold a lot of anger about a lot of things.
it's got worse since i had my baby as it was a very traumatic birth.
i feel my gp will just think i'm over reacting about nothing.

Answer 1

it sound like you may be depressed which is more common than u think, u must go to your doctor and explainhow u feel they will maybe prescribe u anti depressants,when i was depressed i was the same i would snap at people for no reason.didnt want to go anywhere,visit anyone,speak to anyone really,quite tearful for no reason,hated my life though nothing had changed to make me feel thet way,id feel adgetated and little things in daily life seemed an effort to do.thought id just tell u how i felt so if you are experiencing any of these symptoms too then u probably are depressed if your not go to your doctor anyway dont suffer alone any longer.good luck x

Answer 2

No you are not the only one that feels like that. I think that you should either talk to your gp or a counselor. Also do you work or do anything else that gives you a little time away from house & family? If not, doing something like that might help also; just a few hours a week can help.
If/when you talk to your gp, be sure that he/she knows that you are genuinely worried about this. Tell them that you don't want to do anything that might harm your family or yourself, if you have a good gp; he/she will do all that they can to help.
Please know that you are not alone in feeling this way and that lots of us are wishing & praying for you!

Answer 3

Anger is you and people react differently in a specific situation. That difference in our perception depends on our beliefs, inferences, and interpretations we have learnt from past experiences.
Whilst you might have gone through a traumatic child-bearing experience, it is important to note that it is not people or events that make you angry, but it is the reaction to them that makes you angry. Being angry means you haven't learnt to handle a situation, so it is best to begin to understand your anger and try to gain control over it and begin to recognise and challenge all thoughts related to anger. You should focus on positive or good events and ignore the negative or bad events. For example, you experienced pain during child birth, but out of that pain came a beautiful daughter who wants her mother to appreciate her in whatever condition, whether she cries or spoils your day.
Don't expect too much from yourself or those around you as you will feel badly let down and hurt if certain standards are not met. Be very clear on what your angry behaviours are - what happens before anger sets in and what happens afterwards. Keep a diary if possible as this may help you fight the symptoms of anger.
Finally, slow down and listen; don't jump to conclusions and try to understand the feelings behind what is being said. You already have the two people who love you most and they have absorbed all this not because they fear you, but because they care about you and are waiting with open arms to forget the past and focus on the future. See your GP if possible as they are there to help us. Good luck!

Answer 4

Look, I admire your bravery to put your feelings down. I think there may be a possibility that you have elements of post natal depression here. It can cause you to be a bit quick tempered. My ex fiancee nearly killed me on a couple of occasions!

If you are big enough to try to get answers I think you are almost certainly big enough to get thru it. I would recommend asking your GP but obviously be a little careful about what you say. It may be PND which can even happen anything up to 2-3 years after giving birth, I believe. In any case, chill you are not alone, you could always try getting in touch with an after birth support group.

Answer 5

If your GP does dismiss you out of hand, then ask for a second opinion. It sounds like you could have some form of post-natal depression, or an existing condition aggravated by the birth.

I know how you feel, although I don't lose my temper often, the smallest thing will often reduce me to tears. I'm now taking a natural supplement and feel it's helping, but it's worth talking to someone first.

Answer 6

If you speak to your doctor or perhaps the nurse where you take your baby for check-ups they should be able to offer you help and maybe assistance. It is not unnatural to feel so tired and irritable when you have another member of your family to care for and who will be demanding. Have you any close relatives who could care for your daughter and allow you to have some time for yourself. Be surprised how much better you could feel with a reasonable break on your own or with your partner. Do not think you will be laughed at by asking for help. Many, many women feel as you do when in this new role. Just keep loving your family and keep chatting to people if it helps you. Big Smile

Answer 7

Dear cupcake,

you may be suffering from post partum depression. this is a depressive disorder which affects millions of women world wide.
you should seek counsling for this problem. your counselor may be able to give you antidepressants and or hormones that will help your emotions stay more even. I hope this helps as I have been there and done that. Feeling out of control is no fun.

Keep your head up and go get some help.

Answer 8

Indeed you should see your gp, and if you don't get satisfaction from him/her, find another one! Docs can be very busy folks these days, and often not enough time is spent analyzing a patient's concerns. Also, make sure you make time for just you! Go for walks or exercise with a friend. That's great therapy!

Answer 9

I have 2 kids and a husband that's in the army and always gone. Anyhow, I know what you mean about stress.Have you tried to exercise? Most of the running on a treadmill can keep your mind off of stress. Talking to someone will help you out too. Either from church or a counselor or maybe you can talk to your doctor if its depression which I can't diagnose. Well, you take care.

Answer 10

Your GP is the person who can help you and will understand what you are feeling. You perhaps only need a small amount of help and you could be back to normal again. Good luck to you.