i was in a really bad relationship a few months ago and i didn't think i could meet somebody else that i would be interested in....but i have and he treats me really nice and he makes me feel good.....but he's really cute and there are a lot of girls who are interested in him........and im having a hard time trusting him even though i really want to........somebody please help me..........
2006-11-18 03:33:23 · 13 answers · asked by courtney b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you'll never be happy if you dont trust anyone,,, just because u had a bad experience with someone doesnt mean that everyones like that,,, u have to give ppl the benefit of the doubt,,, but at the same time make good decisions on the things that you question,,, meaning,, if he says hes going to the movie with a girl thats a problem,, if he says hes going to the movies with his boys then dont worry,,
at the end of the day,, this is why we date,, cause you wanna find the write person,, so dont worry about trusting ppl cause if you keep dating,, you'll find them
2006-11-18 03:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by chulo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to take it slow and give it time. Trust is something you earn, not something you automatically have, especially if the other person has been hurt. I had a problem w/ my boyfriend. He actually left me for his kid's mother. We were split up a year and got back together. He is a totally changed man but the trust issues we go thru are crazy. Because of what he did, he did not deserve my trust for a long time, but he has slowly started earning it because he has done nothing but try to prove to me that he would never do anything like that again. Sometimes I still go off on him and I hate the fact that he did what he did, but I can truly say I love him and so I work on trusting him just as hard as he works trying to gain it....good luck!
2006-11-18 03:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Gaby A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. I dated a guy for ten months then he up and left me for another girl. Trust is going to be hard but you really do just have to take it one day at a time. If you really want to be with this person then maybe you could sit down and tell him what you are afraid of. Trust will eventually get easier but it will be hard and it may hurt for a little while but you will overcome it I promise.
2006-11-18 03:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Casandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him give him a chance just be careful and letting your heart go and be proud that all those girls want him and he wants you! Thats a compliment in its own. There is no rule that says when your in a relationship you have to jump right in. Just take your time. but don't make him pay for the other guys mistakes
2006-11-18 03:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very hard to ignore that nagging little voice in your head. Does he really love me? You will have to get over your hurdle. Go with your guts feelings. Can you trust him with your life? A word of caution, don't debate too long. He may not be that patience.
2006-11-18 03:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Zooya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very hard especially when you have been hurt before. You just gotta take one day at a time.
2006-11-18 03:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by kennerkitty812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into any relationship unless you can trust them. If you do it will only end up hurting them in the end.
2006-11-18 03:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by blacknessforeverandever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it you might have to fight a few ppl off but think about the benefits and who wants a man no girl will chase!
2006-11-18 03:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know how that feels. In time your wounds will heal and you will get to trust and love again. Loll !
2006-11-18 03:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time, and let the trust come naturally.
2006-11-18 04:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by mslilbit24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋