ok,im VERY different then the 14 year old people in my high school. I'm not skinny-mini, i'm ,the dreaded word, FAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! but, i am okay looking, but still, guys have NEVER asked me out. my freinds have b.f.'s and i dont. i mean, they'll be telling me sumthing about having a boyfreind,or being kissed, and they will say,"you know?" but i DON'T!! i mean, ive really tried to lose weight, dieting, and everything else, but it doesn't last for long..... i just need HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-18 03:30:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First things first, don't be dieting unless you are obese. If you're just overweight, it is a very bad time in your life to be doing that to your growing body.
Second, since you're 14, you're probably a freshman. I have to say, you really don't need to be going out with guys right now. Not only is it just too young, but guys are really not finding themselves yet, and until guys find themselves, they won't be able to see the beautiful, true you. I hate how it works, but I also strongly dislike shallow people and avoid them.
So basically, it is unlikely that there are many guys your age who can actually see behind the mask, which I know is a travesty but it's just what media does to us.
Plus, having a boyfriend at this age, although is scattered with good times, is wrought with bad times and hurt feelings. Just wait for a little while, and when the right guy comes along you'll know.
Best of luck to you!
2006-11-18 04:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Derek Southerby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, are you attracted to fat boys or boys who are in better shape?
You say you have tried losing weight. It is hard no matter what your age and it comes down to this: looking and feeling better about yourself has to be more important than the excess food you consume. It is really hard to get used to eating healthy, but you can do it. Losing weight is about 80% diet and 20% exercise, so it is most important that you keep track of what you eat. Keep a food journal and try to limit yourself to around 1400 calories a day if you want to lose weight at a decent pace.
If you choose to stay fat, you are telling other people that you don't care enough about your health or the way you look to do something about it.
PS If you need help learning about calories, there is a free site that has an online food journal: fitday.com
Good Luck!
2006-11-18 03:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel i bet you arent fat though, because im chubby but i think im the size of a whale, so you are probably not huge and also i dont have a bf, its like sometimes you feel like your ahead of your time in a way liike you dont need all this stuff like "ur fat" or w/e i mean people dont make fun of me but boys do do that so its like you just want to be older when "most" guys care more about you as a person. There is always someone out there, just find someone that you can become friends with first and then if he seems to like you then ask him out, if theyll be friends with you, then theyll have the potential to like you
2006-11-18 03:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by shopper_ae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can be attracted the good in an overwieght girl it's just I am not attracted to them sexually which is a good amount of what boyfriend/girlfriend is about. If you want to get a guy that you are attracted to (just think about it, wouldy you liek an overwieght guy?)you will have to lose wieght. I know a girl who was overwieght and she had many friends and stuff because she was a nice person, and then she got a personal trainer, lost the weight and was very pretty. So not only were guys attracted to her personality, but they were attracted to her sexually now also and (although she wasn't absolutely gorgeous) she could have had any guy she wanted. I would consult in expert to try to help you lose the wieght. It will be easier while you're young.
2006-11-18 03:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Poo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason that guys can't see the good first of all is cuz they are guys and second of all because they are high school guys. high school is a stupid clique thing that we all have to deal with for 4 years but then things will get better. in high school guys minds are fully developed and still have child like qualities in them...i'm sorry that your going through this....it must be hard but just hang in there and things will get better....maybe you could make a new year's resolution to lose a few pounds eveery month or something like that if you think that it would help you feel better....
2006-11-18 03:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the main fact of it is. boys like girls that they can brag to their friends about and being fat, although it isnt a bad thing is an easy target for friends to make fun of each other. As a teen this is a struggle but trust me as you get older, even if it looks like you will be alone forever, you wont. Their is always someone there for you and as people get older they mature and rely less on physical apppearance and more and personality.
2006-11-18 03:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Garrett L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad... there is nothing wrong in being fat! i know, coz we are on the same boat... i had 3 ex b.f. all sincerely love me, i'm in a relationship right now and is very happy and satisfied with my life, you just got to wait... you dont need to rush things... you got to be confident and happy for who you are, i always always look at myself in the mirror and i see a jennifer lopez or cameron diaz in me... its all in the attitude and be conficent, you got to feel good aboud yourself, you got to love yourself first, you got to believe you are beautiful for people to see that you really are... wear the clothes that fits you, always look clean and fresh, never ever wear clothes that doesn't look good on you.. be stylish go to the most expensive salon, pamper yourself, and explore, there is the whole world out there than doing self pity.... i got my salon schedule every month, i go shopping for clothes twice a week. hell with what other people think and say...
2006-11-18 03:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being fat may reduce your chances with some guys but there is someone for every one of us so don't be disenchanted. Loll !
2006-11-18 04:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what they said. Especially the number 3 poster ?
2006-11-18 03:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just means you're in the wrong place, you might be where all the shallow guys are.
2006-11-18 03:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by macky boy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋