My bf and i have been together a while and we love eachother more than anything in the world. We want to marry, but we are both still in high school. Is it a bad idea to be engaged this soon?
2006-11-18 03:26:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG... YES!!! NEVER EVER get married until you have lived together for at least 1-3 years. Living together is when you really find out about eachother. There may be some things you hate about the other person that you arent aware of until you LIVE together. 80% of divorces are from people who get married between the ages of 18-25. SO BE CAREFUL!
2006-11-18 03:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged is not a bad idea. Is actually getting married, you both need to focus on school and a future for both of you as individuals and also as a couple if that is the way you feel. What about college, getting a job, saving money up, getting something strong and firm for the future that you both want.
2006-11-18 11:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, and I think dat before you get married, you should really wait till after you graduate. I'm sure he must be a cool dude, but the best thing to do is, you should go to university, and get a qualification in a career, so that you can work. Also, its best to live with him for a while after you graduate, to see how things are when you guys are living together... So in any case, if you find in the end, he's not a really nice guy, u know u have a job to turn to, which gets you pay, and you can get back up on your feet, and can find someone else! Anyways, to whatever you choose, the best of luck to the both of you!
2006-11-18 11:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Guy_33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I married at 17, senior in high school. We loved each other very much. But 2 years later he joined the Navy and came home after a year saying he felt "tied down" and wanted to date other women. I appreciate that he was honest w/me but it broke my heart.
I let him go. Things change, people change. He wanted forever when we married and then he didn't.
When you are that young, you are not 100% prepared or settled in your life just yet. If you truly love each other- give it more time. Discuss the future, see a pre-marital counselor, do some planning, and lay a firm foundation for what's ahead.
It will be worth it.
2006-11-18 11:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. My wife and i met in HS and our first child at 18. We split up after we got pregnant and spent 18 months apart from each other. It has been long road ever since those days but we both agree that we were to young. We have now been married 11 years and have 3 kids it all worked out but it has been tough. Live a bit first before getting married.
2006-11-18 11:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by The Tramp Collector 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most definitely, my parents were engaged in high school, got married right after they graduated and 2 years after having me they were divorced. But the decision is up to you, there is a possibility that you and your boyfriend are made for each other.
Ignore Angel Eve.
2006-11-18 11:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by adgshanice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being engaged is one thing but I wouldn't rush into marriage. No matter how much you think your in love now. your still maturing more and more every year. You want to make sure that you don't grow apart in the future! So go ahead and try the engagment but make it a longggggggggggg one.
2006-11-18 11:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not, being engaged and wearing rings is a token of your love and commitment to each other,but because you are engaged it does not mean you have to marry immediately,you could have a long engagement and marry when the time is right for both of you, congratulations on your forthcoming engagement and i wish you many, many happy years together
2006-11-18 11:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by frustrated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be wise for the both of you to get a good education before you decide to get married .
2006-11-18 11:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, i would wait till you guys are out of college or at LEAST high school.
2006-11-18 11:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋