Stepchild.. stepparent?

Question

If you are a someones stepchild: Do you like your stepparent and why.
If your are a stepparent: Do you like you stepchild and why?

What is your over all relationship like?

I am asking b/c the stepparent - stepchild relationship is a bit different in my family. My grandma and my uncle are/were insperable (she'd dead now). The same maybe said of my brother and his "daughters", as well as one of my cousins and his "son" but the relationships between my other cousins and their stepparents are different.

I figured it could all be chalked up to the old addage "different strokes for different folks" which suggests thats each person is differnt. Never the less the dynamic of step relationships are interesting.
ps. most people didn't know my uncle was a step-child until after my gran died b/c he'd opted to live with her instead of his own mom when he was a teen.

Answer 1

I have been both. I loved my two step mothers and I loved my step children. I am not to fond of my current step son as he at 20 still thinks his parents will get back together and constantly tries to drive a wedge between me and my husband with lies about what I have said or done to him. Luckily he got a girlfriend and doesn't have time to interfere anymore. Over all my stepping experience has been good. My step mothers were giving loving souls who would have given you the shirt off their backs if they thought you needed it and my first set of step kids were great.

Answer 2

Every step relationship is different as people are all different. Not one single relationship, period, is ever the same. There may be similarities but they're as different as can be. It's just human nature.

I have two step children, ages 6 and 11 years. I love both of the kids to death!! My relationship with the youngest is very easy while the oldest tends to push every button I have and there's days I want to duct tape him to the ceiling! But, I have to step back and consider where his anger/disposition is coming from... his mother. Bottom line, we do the best we can and love unconditionally.

I'd also like to say that in our home, there is no differentiation between step and biological. All of the kids are "our kids" and we're a family. End of story.

Answer 3

as a stepfather of 3, 2 girls and 1 boy the eldest girl was 14 when i joined the family ,next girl 12 the boy 9 the eldest cut herself of from the family and view me as an intruder someone to be hated and has carried that feeling to this day no matter what i would do it was always wrong in her eyes ,next girl was lost and needed a male figure in her life as the father of all 3 took nothing to do with them with her we had our ups and downs like any family she would work with me in our workshop and over time we became close , she left home to be a nanny and became very home sick i would talk to her by phone every week she became very depressed one day while talking she gave me the greatest gift any man could ask for when she said she missed me and loved me i just had to get her home , From then she moved on to collage got a boyfriend and loves her life ,comes home every weekend to see her mum and i always greets you with a big hug .she went from being a step daughter to a daughter and my best friend the boy and i are very close .For me it has been a good experiance with lots of good memoried i joined the family in 1991 and we have been happy and 2 out of 3 is not bad

Answer 4

Yeah, my mom and dad divorced while i became 5 and my mum remarried to my stepfather who has 2 daughters, one became 4 and the different became in effortless terms some months previous on the time. while i became little I used to think of my stepdad became superman and that all human beings would be fortunate to have him, yet as I grew up i began out to experience greater of a "Why does he would desire to be right here? would my existence be greater proper without him?" and that i began out to %. out the faults in him. He has slightly a short temper yet he loves me like he does his actual daughters. i think of he's incredibly insecure nonetheless because of the fact he's often procuring me issues as though i'd love him much less if he did no longer purchase me them. The longer he's been right here the greater he's felt mushy telling us what to do and issues, and because he's no longer my actual dad I even tend to get indignant while he's impolite to me, yet he's a very surprising individual a rather good variety of the time.

Answer 5

I have two step kids and I love them like they are my own. My husband and I don't call them step kids when we introduce them to some one. They are just our kids. Between us we have 5 kids and 2 grand kids. We get along great they are just another one of my kids.

I am also a step-child and I get along with my step-dad better than my own dads. I am also adopted and know my biological father. So I technically have 3 dads. My step dad is more my dad than any of them

Answer 6

I couldnt stand my stepdad and my wife couldnt stand her stepmom. i think that when a step parent come into the picture at a certain age they cant act like a true parent cuz the arnt. they need to be more of a friend and go through the real parent for disipline.

Answer 7

I ama Step Parent and I not only like my step son I love him. As well my husband is a step father to my previous children and he loves them as well. Did we get here over night, that answer is clearly no. It came from years of communication issues; you earn the respect you earn the love. It is not handed to you on a silver platter and anyone that demands love or respect from a child just because you are this new step parents is opening themselves up for disaster. Earn it! My step son adores and loves me as my children their step father. The other parents were as well present in this. We showed the children early on that anger does not have to be present. We all put aside our luggage from the past relationships and focused on the present and future. Our over all relationships are wonderful.