My daughter's father and I broke up about two years ago, however since we broke up he has not seen too much of his five1/2 year old, my daughter. because of court and everything else, well now his son's mother is making more of an effort to come and pick her up and see her etc... she is picking her up today, I worry about things like will she hold her hand when crossing the street, will she keep and eye on her etc... Am I worring way too much? Should I just move foward, and realize that she probably does care about my daughter? Thank you, also any advice on how to make this work?
2006-11-18 02:40:14 · 11 answers · asked by heynow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if she is making a really effort to look after her then don't worry to much. she is probablt trying to patch the relationship with you daughters dad. if i was in her porsition then i would try my best to make sure my partner see his daughter. please try and remember that your daughter and her son are step brother and sister so she is probably trying to make them close. if you are worried then invite her in for a cup of tea and have a chat to her about this. at the end of the day you have to be honest about the way you feel and what have you got to lose. if she doesn't want to came in then surgest you take the children to the park so they can play together and have a chat there. good luck.
2006-11-18 03:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are bound to worry and feel that way,,,who better can care for her than you,,,she has raised at least one child and cant have done such a bad job if you married him,,trust she will do her best,,it is unlikely your daughter will come back ravaged by storm or badgers so just tell the ex mother in law you feel a tad odd about not being there but you also know in the same position she would feel the same,,,,she should put your mind at rest,,after all,it is she who wants to take your daughter out,,,it is commendable you are doing this for your daughter,,even though you and your husband have parted you still feel her grandparents are an important part of her life,,a lot of mothers dont,,,,yes,,its true.
2006-11-18 10:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she' s going to the effort to see daughter, she probably does care. Trust your gut. Do you get the impression that she cares for you daughter, or does she seem to be doing this out of spite? Try to create a good relationship with this woman, and things will be better for all involved (i.e, You'll trust her more, she'll be more invested in the situation, etc.). Good luck!
2006-11-18 10:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by rutheo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like a good woman. And she is a mother herself, so I think you shouldn't worry too much. At least she is taking an intrest in your daughter. MY step mom never cared even to say hello to my sister and I. And your daughter will be able to have a relatioship with her half brother.
2006-11-18 10:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell by her demeanor what kind of person she is? Is she kind & caring with your daughter? Does your daughter seem to be happy around her?
Let her know your concerns, talk openly & calmly about them. Tell her that it's not her, that you worry about your daughter when she is with anybody, you can say your parents or grandparents, whoever, just make sure you let her know that it is not just her.
If your daughter enjoys herself when she's with them and you can be assured that she's safe then it should work out on its own.
2006-11-18 10:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. I am sure your daughter will be fine. It took time for me to be comfortable sending my sons to their father's after our breakup. Just be glad the woman wants your daughter around. My ex's wife hates my kids and tells them on a regular basis how awful they are. Thank God they are old enough to not go to their house anymore.
2006-11-18 10:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new woman in his life appears to be responsible, caring, kind, appreciate that she is "helping" with your daughter. She may also be trying to mediate a bit so as not to cause a riff between you and your ex.
2006-11-18 10:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think even though it may be hurtful or even hard to accept i believe that it would be better that she cared for your baby than miss treat her, like some girls that don't even take care of there own. now as for him not seeing her or making the effort i think you should let him know that he should make some kind of effort just to show HE cares for his own.
2006-11-18 10:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Yes.
Take note of small victories each day till you feel your self power restating itself and make some more friends
2006-11-18 10:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by f1antasyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to worry, but i think she will not let anything happen to her.
sit down and talk to her about it. she's a mother too so she will understand.
good lucky
2006-11-18 10:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋