knowing that it can never happen. Sure i've heard some shy guys get hot girlls but i don't think they are as shy as me. i'm the shy kind that doesn't talk at all. some people just say they are shy but they talk, and they know how to talk. i can't talk well because i haven't practiced speaking much. Anyways, but i have this dream of a hot girlfriend, i'm just attracted to them..it's natural. Do most shy guys end up alone or with a non hot girl?
2006-11-18 02:33:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be assured my friend. When the time is right, a hot girl who likes a shy person, exactly as you, will come your way and be yours.
2006-11-22 00:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by WEBBADGER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are talking about. The shy guy can end up with anyone they want.
Here's a secret that I learned WAY too late...The "hot" girls you are talking about...Usually DON'T have boyfriends...Yeah, that's right. It's because all the guys think just like you do. The result...She's single and nobody will ask her out. Just walk up and ask "Would you like to meet up for lunch? It's surprising how often that worked. Usually, the ones that say "Yes" will be talkers and you won't have to worry much about what to say.
Another secret to talking...Include a question with your answers. For example... She asks "How are you?"...You say "I'm fine. How have you been?" ("How are you?" is too easy to say "Fine" and stop there)
What I did was I started roller skating. Large number of young people in a random environment. You wait for a couples skate and because the music is usually loud, just a nod can get you on the floor skating hand-in-hand with anyone you choose.
2006-11-18 02:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you end up is entirely up to you. I was so shy in school that I had no friends and felt like I could never ask a girl out because they would never want to be seen out with me. Yea that bad.
I went in the navy. Got a lot more confidence and met a girl through my sister. She was and still is my dream girl. We were married for 37 years but I didn't know how to take care of that relationship and we parted.
There is only one thing keeping you from having that hot girl.
YOU! Girls like guys that are confident, funny and pay attention to them. As you get older you will begin to change and some of that confidence will come. But to really make that happen you need to work at it. You need to come to an understanding of why you are this way and know that what we perceive of others is totally erroneous.
This is the difference between a shy person and a confident person.
A shy person will meat someone and know they will not like them and say nothing.
A confident person will meat someone and know they will like them and walk right up and say Hi.
A confident person thinks of the other person. A shy person thinks only of themselves. I know that doesn't seem right but it is true and you have to think about that. We really don't have that other persons interest in our mind when we meat them. We have a perception of what that person will think of us in our mind and it always overrides reality.
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2006-11-18 02:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look around. There are hot girls with total jerks, fat guys, ugly guys, poor guys, total idiots, sissies, abusers, geriatric old farts. The rarest combination is going to be hot girl, shy guy.
You can have every other good quality and being shy is going to be a deal killer. At best you are going to end up with a girl below your league with a controlling personality.
You can go get therapy for this dude, or you can just continue being handicapped for the rest of your life. I worked for a guy who told about when he used to be painfully shy and had a stutter, he went to therapy and when I met him he was married to one of the best women I've ever met and had two beautiful daughters. Be like him.
2006-11-18 03:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon the shy guys gets the best of the girls because they are not pig headed loud mouth put downers another words, egostatic =) My partner is very shy, he barely speaks and has a speech (little) impediment. I had the choice of going out with the guy that every girl liked but I kept chasing the shy guy lol. Because he wasn't paying attention to me (he was too shy lol)
2006-11-18 02:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Starjarus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty shallow, man. 'Hotness' is in a personality. Maybe I am not the most attractive girl and maybe my husband isn't the most attractive guy, but we love eachother. He makes me laugh until my stomach hurts and I keep him balanced with his money and bills. I am hot to him becase he completes me. I was shy all of my life. I thought I would never find anyone to deal with me, I am a very organized serious person. Just worry about finding your soulmate, not some brainless Paris Hilton clone.
2006-11-18 02:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think positive. Most women are more emotionally attracted to men. Getting to know them through friendship first without being brotherly or the reliable little friend will greatly help your cause. Learn how to talk without sounding foolish. Rejection is normal at first. Women love confident men even if you don't have a clue as to what you're doing. Always project confidence.
2006-11-18 02:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mate you should take a Tickle test or two.
You should find some answers.
Try telling yourself you are not shy and just say Hi.
You will never talk to the hot girl or get her attention otherwise.
2006-11-18 02:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OUch, do't think like that. You shouldn't define the female only with the words hot or non-hot. There are a lot of female types, and they are really different from each other. Have you evere heard the quote:
"DON'T TRY TO FIND SOMEONE PERFECT. JUST FIND SOMEONE THAT YOU LIKE, AND TRY TO MAKE HER PERFECT". I think you should try this. Good luck my friend.
2006-11-18 02:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Genadi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dreams and aspirations are never a waste. That's what keeps us moving forward. It does happen, my son and myself were both very shy and had no problem, as time went by. Hold your head up and keep hoping.
2006-11-18 02:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋