Should I move out?

Question

So, I just turned 18. My boyfriend(21yrs old) and I think we are ready to move out on our own. We have most of our items needed as far as kitchen items, etc. We are also saving up $2,000 before we move out for extra expences. My boyfriend has already been out on his own- and says with the both of our paychecks we will be great. But, i find myself doubting the whole thing. I would really appreciate it if someone could give me advice.

Answer 1

Smart Girl Krystal!!! You have obviously been thinking long and hard about this step in life. Kudos! $2000 is almost perfect as long as you have first and last months rent ready. Doing a budget ahead of time, which looks like you did by saying that both checks are sufficient to make it on your own, is an absolute necessity! However, you need to make sure both jobs are secure! Never quit a job until you have another one ready to go into. Also know ahead of time that living in such close proximity can lead to allot of arguments. Part of a mature relationship is to know you don't go running away at the first argument. Know these things happen. They will happen often in different degrees. Just accept that just because you differ on issues doesn't mean you picked the wrong person. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you have doubt, there is a reason - so don't go till you are ready - It shouldn't be that big of a deal for him if he really loves you, Yes, maybe disappointed but he will deal with it. Do what your instincts tell you. You are your own best judge, and you can then have the time to figure out if it is just nerves,fear of being "all grown up" or there is something missing in the relationship. Trust your self. Good luck.

Answer 3

Many studies have shown that the divorce rate among couples who live together before marriage is ASTRONOMICALLY higher than couples who don't... almost 75% higher.

Also women who live with men out of wed lock have a much higher chance of being an unwed mother, have problems with self esteem, and self confidence, having financial problems, have problems with future relationships... the list goes on and on.

You want advice? Stay at home. You are only 18, give yourself a chance to mature and become a WOMAN. Finish your education, get your career going. Choose NOT to be in the negative statistic column. Keep in mind that while your heart (and other body parts) are telling you to go, your BRAIN is telling you to have second thoughts! The brain thinks, the heart doesn't.

You have every right not to take my advice but keep in mind that there is a 75% chance that in a few short years you will wish you had. It's your life, you are the one who decides how it turns out.

Answer 4

I definitely would not do anything if I had any doubts. I also would not move in with someone unless you know you could make it on your own. You never know if that person will leave you or if they are responsible enough to pay their portion. Just be careful and think things through. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I would say yes, go for it and move out. The sooner your out in the world paying your own way, the better off you will be in the long run. However, are you sure you want to move in with your boyfriend? That's a big leap in a relationship.

Answer 6

If the doubts are financial then go for it. Young love will always find a way round that.

If however you doubt it will work out betwixt the two of you, then hang fire, because you patently do not love him enough and it will all end in tears.

Answer 7

Your young experiencing things never hurts anyone. It won't be all peaches and cream. If you all have been together for a long time (1-2 yrs) I would do it. You all will have privacy. But know that make sure that if he decides to leave you can afford it on your on and he too if you leave him.

Answer 8

Ok so which part of moving out are you doubting? Your finances or your relationship?

That would be where I would start looking. Decide what it is that is really holding you back. Your fear of not having enough money or your fear that your relationship will not work out.

Alex

Answer 9

if your questioning moving in with him doesn't that show a sign you may not want to be with him for the rest of your life. I could be wrong but don't go by your heart because then you may regret it. Just a suggestion .

Answer 10

If you are second quessing this move, maybe you need to wait awhile before making that step. I always say go with your gut instinct, if it's telling you not to move out, just wait until you feel comfortable. If he loves you, he will respect your decision.