...but we still go out together, have a laugh, and make love, but on the understanding that the physical side of our relationship would stop immediately if either of us met someone.
My question is, is this a really unusual relationship we have?
2006-11-18 01:27:47 · 15 answers · asked by A True Gentleman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Odd as it may seem, no. You have the friends with benefits goin' on.
2006-11-18 01:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you still together but not committed. Ive known people do the samw though and then it just gradually stops (the physical side) and they remain friends. It depends if you are in each other lives too much or not, cos its hard to find someone new if you are always together. Im good mates with my ex and we split for similar reasons but didnt carry on phyical stuff. Its not really unusual sounds like you don't want to loose each other yet thats all. Good luck.
2006-11-18 10:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is by time one of you, will feel too attached to stop this. and if the other finds someone else it will be like you being stabbed or cheated on, while you both agreed you are free to find someone else. you live your life together like a real couple in a way, so it will develop the emotions of love and feeling you belong to that person, miss him/her, jealousy..etc. I'm talking out of experience. its sure lots of fun and feels great, but on the long term it will hurt. you didn't actually break up together..you are more in an uncertian situation.
good luck
2006-11-18 09:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by mr_dark_eyed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go out together, have a laugh and make love. That's a relationship!!
What planet are you both on-just get on with it and stop playing games.
Pity the poor suckers who ever meets up with one of you two- they're in for a rough ride!!
2006-11-18 11:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The physical part isn't the only part to a relationship. Try talking with her about current topics or something else related and getting to know her better...you might be surprised.
2006-11-18 09:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by rini17331 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think in today's society it is really unusual. The only questions I wonder if you both have asked yourselves are
1. Am I really looking for someone else or open to meeting someone else that will completely replace the position of my ex?
2. When this new person arrives in my life, will I allow this person to completely replace the position of my ex without compromise?
3. If no one new arrives in my life but some one new arrives in my ex's life, will I genuinely be "OK" with them severing ties with me so they can give their new relationship a fair chance?
If you do not have "clean" answers to these questions then there is more you both have to discuss and come to turns with before someone new arrives. When I say "clean" I mean without any feelings of remorse in ending this "affair" or longing for its continuance when another one decides to break it off.
Remember this needs to go both ways. For example, if you can break cleanly but she can not, and you really want to find someone new then it is best to break now. Breaking now will allow her (hopefully) more time to heal versus having to contend with no longer interacting with you in the exact same fashion AND having to deal with you loving and interacting sexually with someone new.
In reverse, if you are the one that may not be able to contend, you will need to think about breaking now.
I hope this answer helps you as it was sincerely from my heart.
2006-11-18 09:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by cunningprose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It probably is a bit unusual, but I am not necessarily saying that it's bad. It's good that you can "split up" and not have the anger and hate that commonly goes with it. As for the sex thing, I really can't comment on that issue.
2006-11-18 09:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bit unusual but sounds great to me!! You're both single and not hurting anyone so why not? Enjoy yourselves you lucky buggers.
2006-11-18 09:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i mean if yall love each other then no but when yall find someone else everything is going to have to change but i mean if yall just don't do the physical thing because then yall are going to be use to it and when yall find someone else yall arnt going to see anything wrong with running back to each other to do that but i mean there is nothing wrong with yall hanging out and having fun together
2006-11-18 09:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by *LaTiNa_BoNiTa* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you are both afraid to be the one to say enough is enough and let go.....i bet you both have the idea that you want it to work tho know it wont so your takeing the next best option....and by saying its just sex gives distance and takes the presure of a relationship so both can not get hurt. best of luck
2006-11-18 09:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋