i had a blighted ovum(type of misscarriage) in july this year its been 3 months since my d&c in this past october (last month) im almost 3 months pregnant now and sooo very paranoid what to do i dont know!!! but i cant enjoy my pregnacy until i get passed my 3rd month or until i have this baby!!!! anyone feel the same? how do i get over this fear? and what wekk exactlly will the threat of misscarriage stage be over? the 12th or 13th week of pregnacy? me and my fiance both are paranoid its driving me crazy and all i want to do is enjoy my pregnacy with my hubby and family and friends!!!! anyone going through this or have been through this before? my doc told me that it most likely wont happen twice! so people dont tell me it has or that it might please im all paranoid as it is!!! im almost 7 weeks this thursday and theres a baby and a heartbeat so far so good right?!!!
2006-11-18 01:24:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I had a stillborn in my ninth month 38 years ago. when I had another baby, I was scared also. but everything turn out great. I have three children. we all get scared that something may happen. think happy thoughts. when you get upset the baby feels it also. I had gone to the doctor on wednesday and everything is fine. by friday the baby was gone but I was only 21 at the time and thought that the baby was turning to get ready to be born. but something was wrong with the baby.
2006-11-18 02:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a child at 8 months. It was a very sad and lonely situation. I felt deprived of all the life I felt before the stillbirth. It was medical mistakes on the part of the doctors. When I became pregnant again, I refused to have a baby shower. I said we would all rejoice when and if this pregnancy went well. The pregnancy went fine and so did the next pregancy. I grew two healthy girls. It is hard to get past the paranoia but you have to explicilty trust your doctor. If you trust your doctor many of your fears will be alleviated. You also have to accept that the first pregnancy was defective and that child was not meant to live and suffer in this world. This was a mistake that nature took care of. Divorce the first pregancy from this pregnancy and say it aloud every day when you get up. Tell yourself that this is a new beginning and has no connection to the old. Saything this out loud makes the thought more real. Now, stressing is going up upset the baby that you are carrying. The baby is aware of our body in stress and is not going to be a happy person if you keep stressing. Do things that you enjoy so that your body is sending positive feelings to your unborn but very aware baby. The more hours you spend not stressing and doing pleasant things, the more happy this baby will be. I know how hard this is because I have been there. You do not have to fanatically plan and surround yourself with baby stuff. There will be plenty of time for that later. Dont do up a room and then have this room haunt you all the time. Live now, baby plan later. Take each day as it comes and dont feel that anything is wrong.
2006-11-18 01:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mean your almost two months pregnant. So you should really be in the clear since it was a month after your miscarriage anyways....youll get over your scaredness once you go shopping for some new baby items. I wouldnt think about the past think about the future and all the fun things your going to do with your new little one...congratulations on the baby and goodluck!! I think its after 12 weeks you dont have to worry! but if you just keep worrying like you are its only going to add stress to this baby
2006-11-18 01:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there! It's sad to not be able to get really excited when you're pregnant again, but it will pass the farther along you go. Just hold tight, take great care of yourself, and before you know it you'll get that reassuring ultrasound and start feeling those kicks (even though it feels like forever away). If you can't shake the fear, at least you can reassure yourself that you're strong enough and prepared to deal with whatever fate hands to you.
However, when I was buggin one day...and then that night...and then the next day...I felt like I was going to go crazy and knew I had to do something about it.
I laid down in the dark to kinda meditate and get in touch with my true feelings. I though about how nervous I was, how sad I was that I couldn't get excited, and how much it sucked to lose the first baby. Then I cleared all those thoughs aside and asked the deepest part of myself if I really thought there was a problem with this one. I searched my body, soul, and mind for a sense of a problem, and I couldn't find one in there. In the deepest part of me I knew at that moment that I truly believed that everything was going to be okay I later shared this experience with my boyfriend, and both of us have been extremely calm and confident since then.
Now we've had all the testing and ultrasounds, etc, and the health of our child has been confirmed, just as we knew it would be!
2006-11-18 04:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly like you. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. When I got pregnant the second time I was also very nervous but the pregnancy went well and I had my first son who was absolutely perfect. I think at seven weeks you could begin to calm down and start enjoying. I went on to have 4 more children and no problems with any of them. Congratulations !
2006-11-18 01:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Hamish 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women who miscarriage, go on to have happy healthy babies. I understand you are paranoid. Don't stress out, just make sure you take extra care of yourself and take it east, have your husband pick up most of the housework at home. The threat of misscarriage is over when you hit your 13th week.
2006-11-18 01:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was paramoid and never had a misscarriage, so I can only imagine what you're going through. I would pray (I did) and try not to worry too much. I know many people who lost one before but they all have kids now. I don't know anyone who has lost two, if that helps any. Good luck.
2006-11-18 02:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fret, you are going to make yourself sick. I have a friend who had 3 miscarriages in 1 year and finally she got pregnant again and due in February and it is a boy. You cannot live your life based on one mishap. She didn't and she had 3. My sister had 2 and finally she had a boy. I had my child at 35 and that is kind of risky for a first time but I exercised, ate right and surrounded me with lots of friends and it turned out okay. Enjoy your pregnancy!
2006-11-18 01:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,when a woman get started on their pregnancythey are in a risky situation until the baby will get out, so take care of yourself when you're at home try to relax lay down in bed put pillow on your bottom with your foot on the wall five or ten minutes insted of sitting on the sofa, drink fresh fruit juice insted of ready made in a bottle,
2006-11-18 01:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is very hard fot you after what you have gone through but you have to relax. The stress and constant worry is not helping the situation and it is not good for you or the baby. It will be ok, just say some prayers and try and enjoy your pregnancy.
2006-11-18 01:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋