Been dating this guy almost 6 months, we are both in our 30's, we both have busy lives, we talk daily, and see each other a couple times a week. The relationship is physical, but not everytime we see each other. He calls me his "friend", but says that we are more than that, but doesn't refer to me as his girlfriend. Neither of us are seeing anyone else and he talks about things we'll do in the near future. I guess my confusion is, is he just taking it slow, or am I being a fool?
2006-11-18 00:43:26 · 15 answers · asked by sassy2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he did refer to me as his lover last night, but, my view of being someones lover might be differnt than someone elses.
2006-11-18 00:56:50 · update #1
*L* Love the "friend with benefits comment."
But seriously, if you've been dating for 6 months and you're considered his "friend," well sweetie, "friends" can talk about anything.
You'll get alot of respect and find out where you actually stand if you can confront him about his "friend" reference with regard to describing your relationship.
Most men at this age feel silly introducing a female as their "girlfriend." That is something reserved for the 18ish crowd and under.
Is it the "friend" reference that is concerning you most? Or are you really "that into this guy?" Divide and conquer is the nature of the beast in most of us, even though we don't or won't recognize it.
To answer your last question; Yes, you are confused. He is taking it exactly how he likes it, which could be his safety net for not committing. And yes, you are being a fool for not "talking it out with your friend."
2006-11-18 00:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.....i would like to tell you if you are really interested in the person and want to continue with him why not firmly ask him if he is serious with you. If you really feel he is not genuine person to be with then i guess its better to stay away from him. Never make a fool out of yourself. Whatever it is take it easy and stay happy lady.
2006-11-18 00:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by neelu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes / yes
talk to him about this / maybe he doesnt like the phrase lover / girl friend .ask him straight out where the 2 of you are going and if you two are on the same page,,,,,if not find some one who is going to be on that page with you
2006-11-18 00:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by rev frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used. If you are using him too, then fine.
Otherwise, dump him.
And I'm a guy.
I have had female friends whom I had sex with. But after awhile, you are left wanting more. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. THEN dump him.
2006-11-18 00:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by opjames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. It was just the way you phrased your question. I think you may get some rude answers. And in your situation, I think nothing good is getting up and that you should move on.
2006-11-18 00:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he callls u his "friend" just in case there is some one else out there he might be interested in and doesn't want to close any doors. guessing he is bad with commitment.
2006-11-18 00:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great. well, i feel u should ask this after being a mother of his kid. what are thinking for 6 months.
2006-11-18 00:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mikeeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's afraid of comitment or he's just using you. Loose the twit.
2006-11-18 00:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not totally comitted. In his mind, he is still free to "see" other women.
2006-11-18 00:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by tcom1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is..wat do u want? If U want things to remain as they r.. U let this continue.. If U want more commitment.. U go n talk to him.Cuz hints and signs will remain confusing.
U wanna know wat he means.. ask him directly wat he means when he says u r more than frnds.
2006-11-18 00:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋