I have recently been having friends with benefits relationship with 3 guys at the same time. I am really in love with one of them but he is currently living with his girlfriend. The second one I really care for but he is a lot younger than me but he says aswell as the sex he wants to do stuff like take me out for meals and to watch a movie every now and then. The third one I just met one night out and I don't really care for him.
The age gap of the seconde one is bothering me and also I don't understand why he wants to take me out, I am thinking of letting him go gently. But what do I say?
2006-11-18 00:08:07 · 15 answers · asked by bob k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a woman by the way I just disguised my name
2006-11-18 00:08:50 · update #1
tell him how you feel. and stop playing around with another womens' boy friend. that isnt right. how would you like it if you were seeing someone and your boy friend is playing around with other people. oh yeah you only care about yourself.
2006-11-18 00:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by question man 911 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The one you are in love with who is currently living with his girlfriend should be the first one you let go. If he is cheating on her, he will definitely cheat on you. Also, don't you feel a bit used because he continues to live with his girlfriend? I think his behavior toward you is humiliating. You can do better than that!!
The second, younger one sounds like a keeper to me if you could get beyond the age difference (unless he is young enough that you could get arrested!!). Look at Ashton and Demi as an example.
Don't go out with the third one again because it is a waste of time for both of you.
I hope you'll find happiness very soon!! Good luck to you.
2006-11-18 08:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why let him go? he is the most decent one of the 3. Who cares about the age gap? It is the feelings and actions that count. If you want to let him go, there is no gentle way. Be up front with him, and tell him the truth.
2006-11-18 08:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Bob, You had me worried and I was going to skip you but: I guess your going to have to have a "sit down" and talk to the guy. I wouldn't continue to "use" him.
Maybe he's just looking for companionship,someone to have a nice dinner with. Get together with him, ask him what his outlook was in you, how he felt. If he's happy with his relationship why not keep it this way as long as he's happy. If you have other plans then of course, it's up to you. Good luck
2006-11-18 08:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate people that sleep with people when they know that the other person has a girlfriend.....!!!! What do you think you r doing??? isnt there enough bad stuff in the world????
sorry, but i dont think you deserve the second one, he might be young and he deserves better, sorry hate people that destroy other peoples relationship, i know that the other guy its to blame as well... and he is a jurk, but ure not very nice either,
i am sorry....
2006-11-18 08:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Simone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really love one, but sleep with 2 others.. and he is with another girl... well... I don't see any love here. I think it's all about sex! Dangerous Liasons.... either you forget about 'love' and all of this and just lead this kind of life (sex,sex,sex) which I think is what you are into, or ... hmm.. actually I dont have any other advices for you. (but if you wanna save yourself, maybe 3 men at the same time is too much, at least for your repitation)
2006-11-18 08:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by mr_dark_eyed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do YOU want? Follow your heart, and the decision will be easier to make. As far as letting someone down easy, Just remember to be truthful, and above all, be nice!
2006-11-18 08:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by boots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having affairs with benefits with 3 guys the best thing I can tell you is to go get checked for diseases, that's really disgusting and you should be ashamed...
2006-11-18 08:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him down easy? Why? Just get as much out of him as you can and then ignore him. you obviously don't have feelings for him or you wouldn't mind actually dating him and letting the others go
2006-11-18 08:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yeah right "Bob" you're gay and are just scared of admitting it .... I wouldn't worry about it too much ... all this sex with different partners, something, sometime is gonna just drop off all by itself and you won't even be able to take a pee without tears in your eyes
2006-11-18 08:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋