okay I'm a chick and I met this guy and he's attracted to me and I to him. Well he proceeds to ask me if I have a child....Why does he wanna know that unless he was thinking about maybe pursuing me farther?
2006-11-18 00:06:56 · 11 answers · asked by So'sYerFace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well I didn't ask so...I can't go back in time!
2006-11-18 00:09:48 · update #1
Maybe he is screening you because he isn't ready for a g'friend w/ children. Or....maybe he was just making conversation.
2006-11-18 00:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always answer a question with another question. When he asks "Do you have a child?" your response should be "Is it important to you whether or not I have a child?" He is obviously groping for information, so you need to grope back and find out why he is groping. Any question can be answered with another question. If he says "Because I want to know." Then you say "Why do you want to know?" Eventually you will box him into a very simple corner from which there is no escape. If he answers "I do not want to go out with anyone who has kids" you have saved youself a lot of grief if you do have a child, and found out something more about him even if you don't.
2006-11-18 08:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may well be thinking of further pursuing you. Just don't make the mistake of assuming it's for a long-term relationship. Not that you are, but just in case. Too many young guys are looking for a "friends with benefits" type deal. It's just always a good idea to keep your eyes open.
2006-11-18 08:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, I completely agree with Ladeebug71. That is a very strange question to ask when you've just met someone. It could be innocent, but be on the alert.
2006-11-18 08:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps making general conversation? I have asked even males if they have a wife, kids or pets? Doesnt mean I think we should make out on his desk..just means I was trying to break the silence and look for conversation starters.
2006-11-18 08:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shaide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he had an ex with a child that he did not know about till late, or he is preparing to tell you that he has one, or may be he wants to make sure if it is safe to have sex in your place
2006-11-18 08:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chichou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a rather harmless question, I think all he wants is to know whether or not you've got kids.
2006-11-18 08:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...why didn't you just ask him why he wanted to know if you had a child?
2006-11-18 08:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by OranjTulip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he was trying to get to know you better.
2006-11-18 08:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, he may be a pedophile...
2006-11-18 08:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋