It's a damn ugly world out there..?

Question

Just a lil' question/dilemma/or whatever..I am in my early 20's and an asian female..Just want to know your thoughts on this..Its not that I hate being asian..in fact I do sometimes wish i was non asian..I hate hanging out in places where there's a congregation of asians..And I hate when asian people approach me thinking that because I'm asian, that we're all gonna be friends...I had heaps of asian friends at high school, in fact just about all my high school friends were asians..but now since i've lost touch with all of them I don't know any. I feel like as an asian, i have to prove myself more..'cos theres all these sterotypes and crap..ugghh..I just get pissed off. I strongly believe that the world is kinder to whites. Its like when I meet people or whatever and when they hear me speak, they're like "WOW..your english is so good"..Its like what the hell, because i'm asian i have to speak like retard..Am i making sense? maybe i'm sounding a lil' irate right now..

Answer 1

Be proud of your heritage. They are a smart, beautiful culture.

Answer 2

You said, "It's not that I hate being asiian..in fact I do sometimes wish I were non asian.."
You just said it right there that you have anti-Asian tendencies.
My advice to you? Learn to be kind and accepting to ALL races. If a white person approached you wanting to be friends, you'd jump at that opportunity, but if an Asian approached with friendly overtures, you'd turn your back on them? You sound incredibly lonely yet you're isolating yourself from meeting people simply based on race?

You feel being Asian hinders your life; why not learn to work with it? If someone comments on your English, don't take offense, just ignore that person for being ignorant. Or thank them, make a joke out of the situation. Instead of being irate and bitching about it on computer, go out and talk to more people, meet new people; don't act all defensive just from a few conversations.

Lastly, I think you need an attitude adjustment. "because I'm asian i have to speak like retard." Don't forget that there are 1.1 billion Mandarin SPEAKING Chinese in the world, but only 300 million people living in the US. And not all Americans can read past the third grade level. So there are plenty of americans who someone rude like yourself would label as "retarded" as well. Besides, based on your "lil'irate" rant, you don't come across as the most literate person, either. Calm yourself down and be happy with who you are before blaming the people around you for your personal troubles.

And by the way, I am an Asian female as well, and though I faced racism, I am still proud for being an Asian-American.

Answer 3

You must float like a leaf on the river of life.......and remember, the world we create is the world we live in. If you don't like the way you are being treated, say something. Do something to change people's attitudes. Even in small steps you can make a difference. You're attitude toward Asians is a little disturbing, it sounds to me like you are over-generalizing, and maybe being a little unfair. And no, white people don't have it easier. No one has it easy. Life is tough for us all, but you decide whether you are going to be better, or help make it worse. Chin up and be nice, after all, what's wrong with someone wanting to be your friend?

Answer 4

I am an older "white" person that would like to share some of my thoughts with you.

Yes, I do have some stereotypical ideas about Asian people. I think they are very, very bright. I think they come from a very, very ancient, venerable history. I think they are very industrious. I think they have very, very strong family ties. I think they are both very, very artistic and passionate.

And this is what little I do know. Time is the great equalizer for all of us. We all "pop" into this world with what we are given not knowing anything about anything. But our best friend, "life", teaches each of us many lessons.

Most of my life I have experienced disappointment. This lesson has taught me that having is not the same as wanting.

From where I stand, I view the future for Asians as very, very wonderful.

I wish you well and I hope you discover the joy of just being who you are.

Answer 5

Being a part of any ethnic group is tough. People do judge you on the
basis of your skin colour. I am half native and half white. Some of my
siblings look white like me and some are darker skinned. I think the
ones with the whiter complexion have had an easier time of it. The plus
side is that it has made them more resilient in many ways. My brother
has formed his own philosophy ; whatever people think of him, he
knows the truth. He does not allow their opinions to cloud his self-
confidence. So much of rascist, prejudice, sexism, grows out of
ignorance. That is difficult to fix. You can only concern yourself with
the individuals that meet you. Keep it on a personal level. One person
at a time will meet you and know that you are not a stereotype. You are
smart, funny, etc....They will know you by how you portray yourself. Relax.
Hold your head up and be yourself. If they can't see you as a separate
person then you really don't want to know them either.

Answer 6

It's the same thing all around. I'm hispanic and its the same thing trying to compete with the stereotypes. As if I have to fit a jelly mold of what a latin man should like. It's probably worse coming from other hispanics than whites, but both do it. I think when you are a minority, people are less in tune with your individuality.

Oh the worse is everyone thinking that I should be the world's greatest dancer and party freak, when I don't like either. Turns a bunch of people off when I don't fit their predefined image.

Answer 7

All of us feel picked on or stereotyped at some point or other, even us 'whites' ;).....just try to be who u are and be ok w/it, the insecurities should pass w/time, and in time u will come to know all kinds of different people.

Answer 8

I feel exactly the same way.