I'm just not happy anymore, is it worth it?

Question

my boyfriends mom get's into everything and when i complain he just tells me to ignore her but we all live under the same roof so how can i. she goes out of her way to just need him. but he has a family now and i need him to do the right thing. if he wants to take care of his mom fine but then she should know her place. we argue all the time about her and i feel bad cause i don't want to be around her but if i leave i'm not sure if my son will see his father and i dont want to separate him from his family but i don't want to live unhappy either.

Answer 1

You should have a long talk with your husband about where his loyaties lie. With you, or his mother. If he answers by telling you his mother, then you should pack up your kids, your belongings, move out, then file for a divorce. You deserve to be happy, I hope one day you will be. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to your boyfriend about you both getting your own place. It's rough with so many living under the same roof. Plus a couple needs some privacy of their own which is hard under your living circumstances. I don't think I'd come on as knocking his mother down I'd just tell him how much nicer it would be having your own place where if you wish you can run around in your undies without offending anyone. Get him excited about the whole idea of having your own place. Maybe even set some places up to check into and having him come along. Good luck to you ;o)

Answer 3

You need to find you own place and let him figure it out. I don't understand why the mother is living with you guys anyway? Move out and he will figure it out, either you will have a relationship or you will not. But at least you will have some sanity, this can not be good for anyone involved all of this arguing, especially for the baby. He/She doesn't have a choice in the matter. Good luck and God bless**

Answer 4

That is a hard question. first you should both talk about your problem. And try to become friends with your boy friends mom and try to explain your problem to her. But do not try to separate. This will cause more problem with your family. And Besides your boyfriends mother won't live forever. Just try your best to avoid arguements because this will only destroy your realtionship. And if you want to talk about your boyfriends mother to your boyfriend try to convinced him that his mother can handle by herself. Or hire a maid to look after her.

Answer 5

Know her place? How about yours? You live under her roof and you are not even married. If you want him to respect you then you should have thought about that before you moved in with his mom. You are enabling him and making it easy for him to get what he wants. Its not going to end until you stop doing that.

Answer 6

Simple answer....MOVE! A hovel is better than the set up you have now. I'd live in a car before I'd live with either sets of parents as a married couple.

Answer 7

Move out or your going to have domestics that will end in you no longer having a boyfriend. Make that clear to him: its your family or your mom. And if it doesn't work? Make his life hell and move on - he should've gotten his priorities straight.

Answer 8

have you considered finding your own place to live?
you have to understand that while you are under her roof, you are unde her rules and sometimes it will cause problems.
my only suggestion is to find a place of your own before your relationship is ruined

Answer 9

In my opinion you need to sit him down and tell him excatly how you feel in as much detail as possible.Do it now before you feel to bad to resolve it.After this you will know weather its worth it by his response. hope this helps.