Ive been married 6 years...i have a child with my husband....but i recently discovered i liked women....I've always had this attraction to women dating back to when i was in 8th grade but i never acted on it untill 7 months ago..when at a friends birthday party i slept with my husbands bi-sexual cousin...i only had sex with her once and thought it was a one time thing because i was intoxicated...1 month later i went out to club and met a very attractive woman who i've been making love with....and i think im in love with her she's amazing ....how should i tell my husband im a lesbian?
2006-11-17 22:41:31 · 24 answers · asked by @ubreY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You take him out to the same club. You point out the girl and say to him, "Would you like to smell her P*ssy"? when he says "Yes". You breathe on his face!
2006-11-17 22:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 6⤋
You're not making this easy on yourself are you!?
Firstly he must be told. You can't live a lie and sooner or later he will get to know. Can you imagine the damage if he finds out from a third party..?
Naturally you'll always love your children and I suspect you still in some way love your husband.
Just sit him down and tell him. It will be one of the hardest things you've ever done, but as they say "the truth will set you free!"
I've got to be honest and frank here- it will more than likely spell the end for the marriage. But at least you will be being true to who you've been since grade 8.
In summary no one can really tell you the best course of action despite what I've written above. And no one can tell you what you're doing is wrong or right because no one is without sin and or faults.
You have an opportunity to conduct yourself with honour and tell the truth or you can surpress what is natural to you and live a frustrated lie.
People WILL be hurt by this. There is no getting around it.
Good luck and I hope you make the best descisions you can.
The Iceman.
2006-11-17 22:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about messing around behind his back in the first place, that is something you should also confess to when you have your talk with him. Some guys would be cool with thier girl being into other chicks, more fun in the bedroom. Unless he's self concious, old school, or possessive then there may be some trust issues that your going to have to deal with. Either way you need to let him know otherwise your gonna be living a double life, and I'm assuming that by asking this question your already having some personal issues with having to keep this HUGE secret from him, and believe me its gonna be worse when he finds out on his own, than if you just tell him straight out.
xxx
2006-11-17 22:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by xxxkittenxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these people telling you to be honest with hubby...but I am going to go the opposite way. If you don't want to tell him and want to stay with him then just keep your mouth shut and enjoy a clandestine relationship with as many women as you want. Spouses have been having illicit relationships behind each other's backs for years so why be any different? Don't come out to hubby unless you want to be a lesbian. What he doesn't know won't hurt him. Get over that guilt feeling and you'll be fine. Once the guilt is gone...it won't bother you.
2006-11-17 23:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats Not Going To Be Easy , Just Start Out By Saying " Honey Sit Down There Is Something I Want To Tell You " !
2006-11-17 22:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be tough on both of you with no easy solution. A child does complicate things. After it's over, he will realize that there was no way he could compete with another woman. If it was another man, he would always wonder what he could have done in the past,present and future to save the marrage.
2006-11-17 22:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by mountainriley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms; there is only one way BE OPEN & HONEST. No matter how you tell him there is going to be pain on both sides. It is better to tell him now than wait. What about your child ? Life is hard and you have enjoyed the Love from both sexs and you now know which you prefer. Give your husband the respect to find someone.
Good Luck.
2006-11-17 22:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to be honest with him. Perhaps everything will work out for the best..
Just avoid all the horrible things women say to men when they're breaking up, and be VERY VERY VERY careful with his self esteem. Can you imagine what that must do to a man, to know that info about his wife?
2006-11-18 00:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. What are you afraid of? Maybe he will like that fact. Could be a turn on. Don't dishonor him by shutting him out like that. Let the man say what he needs to. If he is hurt that would be understandable. Let him work through it. You know you have to honor your feelings as well. Lean on him but stand by him too. Good luck to all of you.
2006-11-17 22:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can recommend you do is break it to your husband as gently as possible. The two of you have been together for a relatively short period of time, but that wouldn't make breaking this to him any easier. Oh, if he says he wants a divorce, then don't act surprised.
2006-11-17 22:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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